Ask people why they’re stressed and they’re likely to say that it’s these infernal deadlines or too much work and too little staff, or perhaps the family’s overpacked schedules. And while these can certainly add to a pressure-cooker atmosphere, they’re not really the greatest cause. At fault more than anything is the tremendous internal pressure and anxiety that we create for ourselves through the following:
1 : Self-criticism. Tame your inner critic, focus on your strengths and let yourself off the hook.
2: Powerlessness. We are powerful beyond measure. Open your eyes and see all the choices available to you.
3: Perfectionism. Do your best, but let the elusive “perfect” go.
4: Worry. Faith and action are the best antidote to worry, especially when it comes to situations we cannot control.
5: Unrealistic expectations. Life will never be problem-free. Like a great chili, it’s the blend of diverse ingredients, from spicy to soothing, that gives life its rich flavor.
6: Insecurity. Everything we need is already inside each one of us. Stop expecting to find it outside yourself.
7: Hurrying. Try walking slower, chewing slower and working at a steady, not frantic, pace. You might be surprised to find yourself performing better.
8: Other people’s opinions. This is your unique life. The question is whether you are meeting your own standards, not someone else’s.
9: Pessimism. The laws of Physics teach us that energy attracts like energy. When we expect the best from life, we have a way of attracting it. Even when it comes wrapped in a difficult package.
10: Competition. Try turning every encounter into a win-win situation rather than a win-lose one.