Top 10 Ways to Have the Best Holidays Ever

IT’S OFFICIAL:
THE HOLIDAY SEASON
IS UPON US ONCE AGAIN!

Dare we hope that this one will be truly magical? Not if we let ourselves get bogged down in overdoing, overwhelm and other all-too-familiar stress-inducing patterns.

Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life!

Here are 10 ways to nurture, encourage and delight yourself—and others—this holiday season by choosing to fuel yourself with constructive core energy grounded in love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude. You’re worth the effort.

Make conscious decisions.

Get clear about what you really want to do over the holidays before compromising with others. If you don’t have a clear plan and clear intentions, you might find yourself getting unwittingly swept along by others’ desires. It’s important to get clear up front on what matters to you and why, so you’ll fully understand the ramifications should you decide to compromise nonetheless.

Take good care of yourself.

The old standards help keep stress at bay: eat healthfully, exercise, drink lots of water and breathe deeply. Schedule time for relaxation and fun.

Start early.

To avoid a last-minute frenzy, start shopping and making presents now.

Ask for help.

Reject any glamorous notion of martyrdom. The burden of preparations should not fall upon one person. The more specific you are in your request for help, the more likely you are to get assistance that will actually prove helpful.

Give yourself a break.

Excellence can be grand but perfection—even perfect happiness—just isn’t possible. Perfection is fueled by fear; excellence is fueled by love. Let your loving best—and everyone else’s—be good enough. Make a budget for your investment of time and money—and stick to it. It really is the thought that counts.

Shorten your to-do list.

Keep the essentials and what has deep meaning for you. Ditch everything else.

Say no when you want to.

IT’S SOOOOOOOO LIBERATING! Try it and see. Too often we let a sense of obligation (FEAR FUELED) trump our deepest desires (LOVE FUELED). When faced with options, choose the one that will make you feel lighter and happier.

Limit obligatory activities.

If you can’t avoid certain events, limit the time you’re there.

Establish new traditions.

Consider doing something you’ve never done before over the holidays, such as travel to another country or take a cruise.

Get support if you’re feeling blue.

If a glorious holiday season feels completely out of reach, don’t beat yourself up for feeling that way. Seek support from a compassionate spiritual director, coach, therapist, friend or family member.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2011 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

Explore Deborah's Book

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The Importance of Idle Time

You’re just about to leave for your dentist appointment, when you receive a phone call saying the dentist has been called out on emergency and will have to reschedule your appointment.

Congratulations!
You are the winner
of one unexpected free hour!
What will you do with your winnings?

Answer your email? Return to the project you were working on before you had to leave? Pay bills? Return phone calls?

Ever consider doing nothing?

The Importance of Idle Time

What is this life if, full of care,
we have no time to stand and stare.
W. H. Davies

If you’re like many, the thought of doing absolutely nothing for an entire hour seems as wasteful as throwing a week’s worth of fresh groceries out with the garbage. Indeed, free time with nothing to do can generate near panic among those who are overloaded and time-starved.

“We seem to have a complex about busyness in our culture,” says Thomas Moore, author of Care of the Soul. “Most of us do have time in our days that we could devote to simple relaxation, but we convince ourselves that we don’t.”

And yet, the harder we push, the more we need to replenish ourselves. As Stephan Rechtschaffen, author of Timeshifting, says, “Each of us needs some time that is strictly and entirely our own and we should experience it daily.”

The importance of this downtime cannot be overstated. It helps us see more clearly, hear more keenly, become more inspired and feel more alive.

On some level, we already know this. But claiming time to ourselves—time that is often labeled “unproductive”—and sticking to it can be difficult. We need to establish formal boundaries around our idle time to ensure that others—and we, ourselves—honor this time.

Here are some tips for respecting your idle time.

  • Make a date with yourself. Get to know someone who deserves your attention—you.
  • Stand firm. Learn how to say “no” to co-workers, children, a spouse or a friend. You may say “yes” in many other ways, but NOW is your time.
  • Be clear about your needs. It’s not, “I need more time to myself.” It’s more like, “I’d like to spend 20 minutes by myself in the morning before everyone gets up.”
  • Be on the lookout for stolen moments. Use the canceled dental appointment to sit on a park bench watching the clouds float by.
  • PRACTICE doing nothing. “Doing nothing” is an art—like all art, you need to practice it to reach your highest potential.

Optimal idle time varies by individual. For one person, gardening may be meditative downtime, whereas for another, it is one more item on the to-do list (to be done as quickly as possible or avoided at all costs). For some, the woods can be is a great place to stroll and commune with nature. For others, the woods is just another place for a power walk dictating emails.

Idle time should be like a beautiful flower: it just exists, seemingly without purpose. And yet, its sight and scent refresh and remind us of nature’s glory.

Start doing things that have no purpose other than joy. Take a half-hour a day to surprise and delight yourself. Keep it simple and consistent. If your idle time becomes a “program,” or becomes progress toward some productive goal, wipe the slate clean and begin again.

The power of idle time is breathtaking in its simplicity.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and, through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

Explore Deborah's Book

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Are You Taking Good Care of Yourself?

With our busy lives, paying attention to taking care of ourselves is more important than ever—yet it’s often the last thing on our minds. To accomplish everything on our to do lists, we work overtime to meet deadlines and use what should be down time to run errands. Long-term stress has a tremendous negative impact on our health—physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Your answers to the following quiz will help reveal opportunities to restore greater comfort and joy for yourself this holiday season by nurturing, encouraging and delighting yourself in healthier, more constructive ways. You’re worth the effort!

Always Be Good to Yourself

True or False?

  1. I find peace by relaxing into all that was, is and will be. I let go of the way things used to be. I accept the way things are.
  2. I foster optimism. I view challenges and obstacles as opportunities in disguise.
  3. I remember to stop and breathe. I pause throughout my day to recenter myself with stillness and mindful breathing.
  4. I practice good nutrition and take the time to enjoy my meals. I set aside work, driving and other activities while I eat.
  5. I do something physical every day even if it’s just a walk around the block or a 15-minute workout.
  6. I get enough uninterrupted sleep most nights. I pay attention to when I feel tired and make rest a priority.
  7. I neither deny symptoms of illness or injury nor panic about them. I take constructive action by consulting the appropriate health care professionals to support my wellbeing.
  8. I do not overcommit myself. I say no when it’s the best choice for me without guilt or shame.
  9. I can settle for “good enough.” I don’t demand perfection in everything that I do.
  10. I recognize the value of working in different gears. I know how to keep simple tasks easy so that I can build up my reserves for larger initiatives that will require greater energy.
  11. I recognize the importance of periodic breaks of various lengths for rest, reflection and play. I sprinkle breaks throughout each day and schedule longer vacations during each year.
  12. I appreciate my personal relationships and invest the time and energy to help them thrive and flourish.
  13. I acknowledge and respect my feelings. My emotions are valued messengers concerning where I’m out of alignment with my values and priorities.
  14. I choose healthy ways to relieve stress. I avoid overdoing coping mechanisms that provide temporary distractions at the price of even more difficult and dangerous long-term consequences.
  15. If I need help, I ask for it. When I’m upset or feeling discouraged, I seek support from a compassionate spiritual director, coach, therapist, friend or family member.

If you answered false to several of these, you may benefit from taking a closer look at the impact your choices are having on your wellbeing—physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Investments in taking better care of yourself always yield a lifetime of benefits.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2009 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

Explore Deborah's Book

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NOVEMBER 15-17, 2016 ONLY: FREE Kindle Version of Tips that Help Entrepreneurs Thrive!

According to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics, the longer a company has been in business, the more likely it is to stay in business. It’s those first few years that are the hardest.

The Bureau’s data reveals that, regardless of industry focus, about two-thirds of all new businesses remain solvent for the first two years, half make it to five years and one-third celebrate their tenth anniversary.

What factors separate those that thrive from those that don’t survive? One difference is that many successful business owners hire professional coaches to support their growth—personally and professionally.

Many have found that their inability to grow their businesses was actually born of personal growth stagnation. Because how you do anything often becomes how you do everything, when you get stuck personally, it is often followed by getting stuck professionally as well.

So what are some of the success strategies
coaches share with such entrepreneurs?

As a member of the Board of Advisors for
The International Association of
Professional Life Coaches (IAPLC)

I am honored to serve as one of
ten expert coach co-authors
who share their perspectives on the
keys to entrepreneurial success
in the association’s brand new book

Coaching for Entrepreneurs:
How Life Coaching Can Help
Entrepreneurs Improve Their Bottom Line

Each of my colleague co-authors and I have written chapters on how coaching helps entrepreneurs. The chapters include examples of specific coaching tools and techniques through which the authors have consistently helped their clients achieve breakthroughs and transformations leading to increased business success and personal fulfillment.

Coaching For Entrepreneurs by IAPLC Members

The topics comprise

  1. 10 Reasons Why Entrepreneurs Need Coaching by Jeannette Koczela
  2. Coaches Help Entrepreneurs Improve Their Bottom Line by Don L. Morgan, PhD
  3. Mastering the Inner You for Kick-ass Business Success by Tresa Leftenant CFP®
  4. Growing with your Business by Boni Oian
  5. Leveraging Your Most Valuable Asset: Your Personal Board of Directors by Deborah Jane Wells
  6. Moving Forward On Your Terms by Ida Crawford
  7. Starting Your Own Business on a Shoestring Budget: How a Coach Can Make a Difference by Davida Shensky
  8. The NLP Coaching For Addictions Program by Janice Walton
  9. The Power of Clarity—7 Steps to Transforming Your Business into a Profit Center by E.G. Sebastian
  10. Communicating Brilliantly: Unleash Your Entrepreneurial Potential by Katherine Hartvickson

Learn how coaching can enhance your sense of fulfillment by helping you meet challenges, overcome obstacles, leverage opportunities and grow your business more efficiently and effectively.

FREE KINDLE VERSION

Modeling one of the many techniques we teach, on November 15th, 16th and 17th ONLY we are offering the Kindle version of the book for FREE. This proven practice helps prime the sales pump and increase early buzz. STOP RIGHT NOW AND CREATE A TASK ALERT for November 15th, 16th and 17th to remind you to click the link below and get your KINDLE VERSION FOR FREE.

http://tiny.cc/iaplc2016bookamazon

Ready to release yourself from the self-imposed limits fear, stress and pain have been placing on your life?

Time to Get Off That Hamster Wheel!

This book can help you get unstuck, reclaim your power and recapture your zest for living—moving yourself forward into a life you love personally and professionally.

Time to get off that hamster wheel
and step into your greatness.

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10 Ways to Sidestep Holiday Stress

From Halloween through Super Bowl Sunday, the holidays provide a wealth of opportunities to practice self-compassion and equanimity OR make yourself and everyone you encounter KUH-RANG-KEE AND KUH-RAY-ZEE! The choice is yours.

Top 10 Ways to Sidestep Holiday Stress

If you’d prefer a more humane and sane holiday season this year—one that you’ll actually ENJOY—here are 10 ideas to help you live your intention. 

  1. Take good care of yourself. Eat healthfully, get plenty of rest and regular, reasonable exercise. Nurture, encourage and delight yourself in healthy ways.
  1. Make lists and set aside specific times to accomplish certain tasks. Prioritize and simplify. Consider scratching some items off your list FOR GOOD.
  1. Ask for help. Many hands make light work. And it can be more fun to do things together—from decorating the house to wrapping presents.
  1. Make a budget and stick to it. No matter what. Let this be the year that you don’t go into debt buying presents.
  1. Shop online and by catalog. Give gift certificates. Look for ways to make gift giving easier.
  1. Share day care arrangements with family, friends and neighbors when the kids are out of school.
  1. Remember to play. Have fun. Share special times with family and friends.
  1. Make houseguests as self-sufficient as possible. Set expectations that they will help out. Don’t give up your own bed unless you must.
  1. Consider alternatives to family gatherings if you find them tense and anxious. Plan well in advance and avoid last-minute surprises.
  1. Take a breather. Go for a walk. Breathe in the fresh air. Find places to be quiet and restful. Go there often.

BONUS TIP: Whatever happens, look for the opportunity—especially in the most frustrating experiences. Whatever your circumstances, express gratitude and get curious knowing that THE HIGHEST GOOD IS ALWAYS UNFOLDING for all, in all, through all. Sometimes the paths we choose make it take longer for this truth to reveal itself, but it is always true nonetheless.

You are loved and loving, blessing and a blessing. Namaste, amen, blessed be.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2010 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

Explore Deborah's Book

© Copyright 2016 DJW Life Coach LLC. All rights reserved.
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Stop, Look and Listen

Though your  body holds valuable information you need to function at your best, if you are like many, you have developed a habit of ignoring its messages and plowing ahead. The noise of competing external demands can become so overwhelming that you become deaf to the essential, subtler whispers from your body that something is amiss and merits attention.

You take aspirin rather than investigate what’s causing your head to ache. You power up by doubling caffeine or sugar intake, rather than getting more rest—or recognizing your fatigue as an early symptom of burnout you’d do well to heed.

When asked to take on yet another commitment, what insight can you glean from the thousands of messages embedded in how your body responds?

  • Is your mouth pinched, tight or frowning?
  • Are your shoulders up around our ears?
  • Is there a knot of tension in your stomach?

If any or all of these symptoms are present, it may well be your body’s way of screaming “no” because you are already over-extended.

For years I demonstrated extraordinary ability to put professional deadlines and everyone else’s needs ahead of my aching bones, burgeoning fat stores, full bladder and weary soul. (Does anyone else see the irony in calling them DEADlines?) I had mastered the hamster wheel approach to life. I kept going—no matter what—thanks to working vacations and loading doses of junk food, caffeine and sugar.

Until one day I woke up 80 pounds heavier in body and soul—no good to myself or anyone else. Despite the fancy titles, fortune and fame, I had become a poster child for baby boomer burnout. How could the American dream have become such a nightmare?

Stop, Look and Listen

On the journey to finally learning to take care of the one person I’d always neglected—MYSELF—I discovered a variety of tools and techniques to help me become more attentive and attuned to my body’s frequency. For those of you eager to do the same, here are some simple steps to help you support your own long term well-being physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually by becoming a better somatic listener.

Start with the breath. Mindful breathing is a major part of body awareness. Turn off thoughts and just let yourself experience the inflow and outflow of breath. Note how and where you are breathing or failing to, clear signs something important is going on.

Allow yourself quiet time. Sit for ten minutes just observing yourself, even (especially) in the middle of a busy day. Meditate. Take a walk or a nap. Soak in a warm tub rather than taking a quick shower. Practice the long-lost art of doing nothing.

Get a massage. It’s not self-indulgence; it wakes up the whole nervous system, releases toxins and helps you tune in to what your body is trying to express.

Use your journal to dialogue with your body. Ask your body how it’s feeling, what it wants, what’s going on. Give that sore wrist or stiff lower back a voice by inviting it to share its message.

Eat when hungry, sleep when tired. Take a week and really pay attention to your body’s most basic needs. Do your real rhythms and needs (quality, quantity and frequency) of eating and sleeping conform to the habits you’ve established? If they don’t, experiment with changes that might better align with greater well-being.

Do a relaxation body inventory. Start with your toes and work upwards. Scan your body from the inside. Try tensing each part slightly, then relaxing it to release residual tension.

Practice mindfulness. Get used to tuning in to your physical self, wherever you are, whatever you’re doing. A big bonus: getting to enjoy the insights your physical self can yield concerning your mental, emotional and spiritual selves.

Whatever you do, remain playful in your approach. We sometimes have a tendency to mistakenly believe that nothing valuable is accomplished unless we are deadly serious and suffering. WRONG, WRONG, WRONG! If your body suggests rolling down a grassy hillside, taking flight on a playground swing, flying a kite, skipping down a winding path or laughing giddily for no reason, don’t resist.

Your intuitive impulses hold the key to your well-being.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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10/31/16 FREE Oprah and Deepak Meditation “Creating Peace from the Inside Out: The Power of Connection”

A well-known Teacher once said,
“I have so much to do today—if I hope to accomplish everything on my list
I must meditate twice as long.”

Most of us are more likely to say, “I have so much to do today, there’s no way I have time for meditation or anything else!” I used to say that myself until I figured out that I have all the time I need for the things that matter most. My role is simply to discern exactly what matters most in each moment.

The funny thing is that people from spiritual traditions throughout the world have long reported that regular meditation actually results in greater efficiency, productivity and abundance. They discover the power of flow: a generous, effortless, gracious way of living grounded in who you are being not what you are doing.

Creating Peace from the Inside Out: The Power of Connection

For those who might want to give it a try—and for those who are already committed to meditation—I wanted to share a great opportunity with you. Three times a year, through the Chopra Meditation Center, Oprah and Deepak offer a NEW completely FREE series of 21 online guided meditations. I love the programs in this series and use them myself. Their newest program, “Creating Peace from the Inside Out: The Power of Connection”, will launch on October 31, 2016.

This program provides 22 simple, daily, FREE,
web-accessible recordings with each
meditation lasting about 20 minutes.

Whether you’re a seasoned meditator or you’ve heard that it might reduce your stress, improve your creativity and increase your sense of well-being, this program has a great deal to offer. For those new to meditation, it eliminates the perceived barrier of “too much silence” by easing you into a healthy new habit through a theme that ties the 22 sessions together with lots of speaking and guidance coupled with moderate intervals of pure silence.

And, for the seasoned meditator, it’s a great way to expand your options and approach. All meditation paths have merit because at their core they are all about the myriad ways we can hold ourselves in mindfulness. Doing the dishes, walking the dog, feeding the cat—all become meditative when entered into with focus and awareness. We are human beings, not human doings. Just me, just here, just now, just be.

Here’s what The Chopra Center
has to say about these programs.

“Studies have shown that it takes 21 days of consistent behavior to change a habit or create a new one, such as establishing a regular exercise routine, eating a healthier diet, or taking time each day for self-care. In just 21 days, you can also establish a fulfilling meditation practice that will give you a lifetime of rewards. You may have dipped your toe in the water with limited success, but this time, you will have daily support and guidance that will enable you to move beyond any past obstacles and experience the many gifts and benefits of meditation.”

Are you ready to master
the power of true connection
to create peace within yourself,
your relationships and the world?

Join Oprah and Deepak to discover your unshakeable core of love, compassion and serenity. As you leave self-judgment and conflict behind, you transform every relationship into one of loving kindness. Do so through the power of meditation with the help of your guides Oprah and Deepak in this FREE 3-week online interactive experience.

You’ll receive a daily email with a link to access the day’s meditation. Track your progress in a private notes section. It’s open to everyone—worldwide!  You can even purchase the program to enjoy over and over at your convenience to continue supporting this healthy habit in your life. I own the recordings of all of the past 21-day meditation programs and cycle back through them regularly to support my centering practice. They provide great value at a reasonable price.

Turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into your greatness!

Register Here Now

Please share this email with a friend. And let me know if you find value in this series. Your feedback will guide me with other suggestions about resources.

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

Explore Deborah's Book

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