How Well Do You Love Your Body?

Whatever our gender, when temperatures increase, the amount of clothing decreases and our bodies are typically more on display. Many of us feel particularly vulnerable if our bodies are even a fraction shy of the unrealistic, inhumane culturally defined perfect 10.

 

How Well Do You Love Your Body?

 

Your perception and treatment of yourself strongly influences the way others perceive and treat you. Research shows that self-criticism and self-loathing are actually detrimental in helping us make substantial, sustainable changes that will support healthier ways of living. Fear-and force-fueled tactics may produce short-term results, but they don’t anchor the type of long-term physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing we seek.

 

How Well Do You Love Your Body?

 

To free yourself from the destructive cycle of self-abuse, focus on the ways your body serves you—and how you can better serve it. Your answers to the following questions will help reveal additional opportunities to harness the power of respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude to nurture, encourage and delight yourself in healthy ways—always and in all ways.

True or False

I appreciate that my arms enable me to hold someone I love, that my thighs enable me to run.

I wear comfortable clothes that I really like and that feel good to my body, rather than trying to hide or camouflage my body or following uncomfortable fashion trends.

I consider myself as a whole person, not just as a body.

 

How Well Do You Love Your Body?

 

I do things that let me enjoy my body—dance, play, take a hot bath, walk, get a massage.

I think and behave as I would if my body were perfect.

I notice that the appearance of people I admire is unimportant to their kindness, compassion and accomplishments.

I do things I enjoy and don’t let my weight or shape stop me.

At night, I tell my body how much I appreciate what it has allowed me to do throughout the day.

 

How Well Do You Love Your Body?

 

I exercise to feel good and love my body, not to feel perfect or worthy.

I count my blessings, not my blemishes.

I think of my body as a source of pleasure.

I only wear comfortable clothes that help me express who I am at my core: worthy, wise, creative, powerful and beautiful.

I consider myself the expert on my body, not the fashion magazines, the cosmetics industry or the weight tables.

I am as “in love” with my body as an infant is.

 

How Well Do You Love Your Body?

 

I think of my body as a tool, as an instrument of my life, not just as an ornament.

I show up as my body’s ally and advocate, not its enemy.

I listen to my body and take its needs and wishes into consideration when making decisions.

I refuse to squander my energy in criticizing my body or worrying about my appearance, and instead spend my time on something more precious or productive.

When someone says, “You look great today,” I enthusiastically respond, “Thank you so much!”

 

How Well Do You Love Your Body?

 

We may find ourselves more appreciative  of our bodies and ourselves if we aim for lifestyle mastery, rather than mastery over our body, weight, or appearance. Lifestyle mastery is about cultivating our unique gifts,  tapping into our potential, expressing ourselves, fostering meaningful relationships, turning obstacles into opportunities and contributing to the greater good for all, in all, through all.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

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There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

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What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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Life Lessons from the Garden

Consider the dandelion. Reviled by many as an insistent, bothersome weed, it nevertheless continues to proudly display its pert, bright yellow self everywhere in lawns, gardens and sidewalk cracks.

I Thrive in the Face of Adversity

Where, in our own lives, do we face adversity? How do we carry ourselves through it: head down, beating ourselves up or feeling defensive and resentful? Or head up and face open, like the dandelion, sure of our intrinsic worthiness, knowing our gifts to the world, even if the world doesn’t necessarily recognize them?

For those who know how to look and wait, the garden teems with other such life lessons. As spring deepens this year, turn your awareness to the wise teachings of nature.

Life Lessons from the Garden

It’s OK to be imperfect. Trying to grow the perfect rose, or the perfect cabbage, is an exhausting, never-ending quest for flawlessness. “Imperfect” roses are still beautiful and “imperfect” cabbages still burst with flavor, just like we humans. With our myriad imperfections, we still contribute our own beauty and zest to the world.

Pruning improves growth. Removing old habits that don’t serve us opens new possibilities for growth in areas that do serve us.

Pay more attention to your health than your appearance. As author William Longgood wrote, “Over fertilized plants may be beautiful but are otherwise useless, like people whose energies are devoted so completely to their appearance that there is no other development.”

Regular maintenance is important. Isn’t it so much harder to clear an overgrown jungle of a garden than to regularly pull encroaching weeds? Think of the clutter that can accumulate in our houses, the extra pounds that are harder to lose than to keep off in the first place, the overwhelm or illness that can result from too little self-care.

Have faith. Plant a seed, water it, and trust that it will grow. Similarly, believe that the shifts you make in your life, the dreams you hold dear, will fully blossom if you nourish and protect them.

I nurture, encourage and delight

Don’t be afraid to try new approaches. The garden is an incredible laboratory for experimentation. What new approaches do those old problems in your life need? Trial and error is one of life’s best teachers. Not trying is the domain of hopelessness.

Take care with predators. It doesn’t take long for predators to damage the result of your careful cultivation, in the garden and in life. What toxic thoughts, relationships, substances, emotions and behaviors are feeding on your energy and blocking you from bestowing your gifts on the world? Eliminate them.

Transform your trash. The compost heap turns rotting plant waste into a treasure pile of rich, organic fertilizer. What negative patterns in your life can you work to transform? When we do the hard work of breaking down these habits, the results are often rich and beneficial to our lives.

Your are unique and precious

Everyone is unique and needed. Everything in nature has a function that is interdependent. As famous naturalist John Muir said, “When one tugs at a single thing in nature, he finds it attached to the rest of the world.” Rock, plant, bird, bee—even bacteria in the soil—all occupy a vital place in life. What is your purpose, your gift to the world? Who do you depend on; who depends on you?

Something important happens every day. No amount of progress is too small to merit your appreciation. Pay attention and celebrate the myriad little daily miracles in your life and the world around you.

Baby step, gratitude, celebrate!

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

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There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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Clearing Clutter: The Ultimate Act of Self-Care

When the mountain of paperwork and other clutter on her desk approached Mt. Everest proportions, Amelia would “organize” by sweeping it all into paper bags and boxes that she stashed in closets and under tables.

George didn’t even bother stashing his clutter. The obstacle course from his front door to the rest of the house meant friends and others generally just didn’t come over. He had grown increasingly isolated.

Kathleen kept her house pretty clutter-free, but her garage was loaded top to bottom with boxes of things she hadn’t used or read in years, including a box marked “RIP” filled with “mementos” of her divorce 20 years earlier.

All three individuals tamed their clutter by examining what drove their clutter habits and enlisting a few friends to help sift, sort, organize and release. One baby step at a time, miracles began to unfold.

  • Sorting through papers, Amelia discovered the name of a colleague whom she hadn’t spoken with for years. The following week, the colleague called out of the blue and offered Amelia an irresistible business opportunity.
  • George fell in love within a few months of clearing his clutter and later married.
  • Kathleen found herself suddenly presented with much-appreciated opportunities for international travel, something she hadn’t done in several decades.

Clearing clutter is one of the kindest and most precious self-care practices.

Clearing Clutter: The Ultimate Act of Self-Care

Excessive physical clutter and weight can be closely connected to unresolved stressors on the mental/emotional level. Taking steps to eliminate the physical excess often has the unexpected effect of easing your sense of mental/emotional burden. Conversely, reducing mental/emotional weight can fuel clearing on the physical plane as well.

Decluttering in any aspect of your life helps you get unstuck, reclaim your power and recapture your zest for living—moving forward into a life you love.

An uncluttered life is characterized by greater efficiency and effectiveness. Your lightness of being translates into a sense of liberation in which you feel more present, confident and capable. You trust your intuition and reason knowing you can rely on yourself to nurture, encourage and delight yourself in healthy ways.

In her book Organizing from the Inside Out, Julie Morgenstern reveals that creating and sustaining any optimal system requires identifying, understanding and overcoming our mental and emotional obstacles to a clutter-free environment.

Here are a few of the most common obstacles. 

  • Need for accumulation. People who need to keep a lot of everything around them may be trying to combat feelings of scarcity, depletion and deprivation.. 
  • Unclear goals and priorities. Organizing is about defining what’s important and setting up a system to reflect that. 
  • Fear of success/fear of failure. Disorganization may be a convenient way to hold back. 
  • Need to retreat. Clutter can be a protective shield to keep others at a safe distance.  
  • Fear of losing creativity. A common myth is that creative, “right-brained” people need to work in chaos to produce high-quality work. Balderdash! 
  • Need for distraction. Clutter can provide a convenient excuse to avoid uncomfortable issues or unwanted tasks.  
  • Sentimental attachment. Infusing objects with personality, emotions and meaning (“That vase will be sad if I throw it out.”) can result in living with enormous clutter.
  • Need for perfection. Some people won’t deal with clutter until it can be completed perfectly. Translation: it will never get done.

Identifying these obstacles and other obstacles can help you create an effective, lasting solution to clutter that sets you free.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

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If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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Lack of Sleep Getting in Your Way?

In much of the United States we’re about to lose yet another hour of sleep when we turn the clocks back at 2 a.m. on Sunday March 12, 2017.

Talk about adding insult to injury!

Given that quality sleep is as important to our health as food and water, why is it that so many of us are sleep deprived so much of the time?

Often it’s because we cut back on sleep in favor of “getting more done.” While that can appear to be an effective short term productivity booster, when practiced consistently over the long haul, it actually undermines our pursuit of excellence.

Chronic lack of sleep can cause a wide range of symptoms, including impaired brain function, memory loss, depression, weight gain and irritability. Long-term health issues include increased risk for heart attack and stroke.

Lack of Sleep Getting in Your Way?

Answer the following true/false questions to discover whether you may be suffering the adverse effects of insufficient sleep:

  1. Instead of feeling refreshed when I wake up, I still feel tired.
  2. I must have coffee to get going in the morning and often depend upon caffeine, sugar and other stimulants to get through the day.
  3. I feel easily irritated, impatient and/or moody—and my relationships are being affected.
  4. I feel weary and discouraged sometimes, but feel I don’t have the time to deal with it.
  5. I have a hard time controlling my emotions—and find myself at the point of tears without really knowing why.
  6. I often feel overwhelmed and my ability to handle stress is diminished.
  7. I have difficulty concentrating and sometimes have to ask people to repeat what they just said.
  8. My memory, in general, isn’t as good as it used to be.
  9. I have a hard time staying awake when I read or watch television.
  10. I doze off easily.
  11. My lack of energy for doing fun things with my partner causes tension in our relationship.
  12. I get sleepy when I drive and have to do things to keep myself alert, such as consuming stimulants or keeping the windows open to get more fresh air.
  13. My reaction time when I drive isn’t as fast as it once was.
  14. I’m not performing as well at work; everything takes longer than it used to.
  15. I’ve been dropping the ball at work and at home by not following through with simple tasks.
  16. My energy is low and I don’t feel very motivated.
  17. I’ve been eating more to boost my energy and my weight has been creeping up.
  18. I get sick often.
  19. People tell me that I look tired.

If you answered “TRUE “to several of these statements, it would be wise to consult a medical professional to be sure these aren’t symptoms of greater underlying health problems.

Every investment in
taking better care of yourself
yields a lifetime of benefits.

Take a closer look at the impact your chosen prioritization of sleep is having on your wellbeing—physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

What mindset and lifestyle changes might you begin incorporating to better support a long, healthy and fully empowered life enriched by copious investments in rest and renewal?

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

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($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

Explore Deborah's Book

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Chasing the Blues Away

If you find yourself feeling a little sad, less energetic than usual, a bit bored or a touch lonely, you may be experiencing “the blues.”

While you can get the blues at any time in response to your circumstances, they are especially common

  • as a sense of letdown in the aftermath of the winter holiday mayhem and
  • when there are fewer daylight hours and the weather is less hospitable to outdoor activities that don’t involve 17 layers of clothing and intentionally sliding on snow and ice.

Chasing the Blues Away

The good news? There are lots of simple steps you can take to restore your sense of optimism and vitality.

Here are ten ways to nurture, encourage and delight yourself with hope, possibilities and empowerment at any time of year in any situation:

  1. Exercise regularly and maintain a healthy nutrition (quality and quantity).
  1. Keep a regular sleep schedule (quality and quantity).
  1. Pamper yourself with soothing and joyful self-care—fresh flowers, massage, music, haircut, spa, mani/pedi, aromatherapy and more.
  1. Take a vacation—even a weekend away can help.
  1. Make dates for special occasions with friends and family.
  1. Do things that make you laugh.
  1. Make progress on a beloved, but long-delayed, project by doing just a little bit at a time each day.
  1. Invest yourself in activities that enhance your spiritual wellbeing.
  1. Volunteer—give something of yourself to others.
  1. Express your creativity. Sing, make art, paint a room, take dance lessons—the options are endless.

If what you’re experiencing seems like more than episodic blues because symptoms continue to expand and intensify, please seek help from medical, mental health and spiritual professionals. You are worth the effort.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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An Exercise in Vitality

What’s one of the top 10 ways to reduce stress? Exercise.

One of the top 10 ways to relieve anxiety? Exercise.

Promote vitality? Exercise.

Relieve depression? Build self-esteem? Improve self-image and confidence? Increase stamina, strength, flexibility, stability and dexterity? Reduce tension? Improve mental sharpness and alertness? Strengthen immunity? Reduce health risks? Lose weight? Improve sleep?

Exercise. Exercise. Exercise.

An Exercise in Vitality

With a list like this, one might ask if there is any aspect of human life that isn’t helped by regular exercise. Not according to physical and mental health experts. Anyone and everyone who is concerned with health and well-being agrees: physical activity is a vital component for optimum physical and emotional health. Regular exercise is the key to increasing the quality of life. Being active improves body, mind, heart and soul.

Amazing as it may seem, 20 minutes of aerobic exercise three times a week produces far greater benefits than you’d expect out of investing a mere 60 out of 10,080 total minutes of living per week. The typical return on that less than 0.6% investment of your time yields returns far greater than you’d imagine.

Yet, a quarter of Americans get absolutely no exercise and nearly two-thirds get less than the recommended minimum of 30 minutes several times a week. Fewer than 15 percent comply with the American College of Sports Medicine’s recommendations for adult fitness.

If Exercise Is So Good For Us,
Why Don’t We Do It?

No Time: That’s the reason most people offer when asked why they don’t exercise. And it’s true; most of our lives are busier than ever before. But the fact is, when something is important, when we are committed, when we really want something, we find the time for it. Because time is not a scarce resource.

That’s right: time is NOT scarce. We have all the time we need for the things that matter. Our sole responsibility in each moment is to discern, using intuition and reason, what matters most right now, to focus and to follow through. According to noted psychologist, Abraham Maslow,

“If our true nature is permitted to guide our life, we grow healthy, fruitful, and happy … [Yet] ninety-eight percent of us die before we taste the nectar of our magnificence.”

If we look beneath the easy and ready excuse of time scarcity, we find more complex reasons why people won’t start or stick with even a reasonable, regular exercise routine.

Impatience: People want to get in great shape RIGHT NOW! Never mind that it took 5, 10 or 20 years to get into the shape they’re in.

Unrealistic Expectations: Looking for the “perfect body” is a guaranteed set up for failure.

Denial: Many people are in denial that they might have health problems or suffer a debilitating disease.

Intimidation: The idea of failure, looking foolish or being a beginner intimidates many people into never starting an exercise program.

Painful Memories: Humiliating and abusive past experiences or old feelings of inadequacy can fuel resistance to exercising.

Fear of Rejection: If your friends and family tend to be out-of-shape, you might fear being shunned by them if you become more fit.

Depression: Years ago when my mental and physical health were at an all-time low and my primary care physician was abusing me yet again concerning my lack of health and fitness, I SCREAMED back, “Trust me, Doc, when you’ve sunk so low that your only hope is an early death, you invest little concern over leaving a good-looking corpse.”

Physical exercise is essential to good physical and emotional health and a sense of wellbeing. If any of these reasons lay beneath the surface of your “not enough time” excuse, consider these suggestions:

  • Start slowly.
  • Enroll a buddy.
  • Find an activity you like.
  • Enjoy a fun distraction (audiobooks, TV, movies, music) while exercising.
  • Go for progress, not perfection.
  • Realize that it may hurt before it feels good.
  • Remember healthy bodies come in all shapes and sizes.
  • Don’t give up. If you miss a day, begin again the next day.
  • Be patient. Substantive, substantial change takes time.
  • Congratulate yourself on your hard work and follow-through.
  • Ask for help if you need it.

You don’t have to train as a triathlete for exercise to make a difference. Specialists say that short bursts of exercise can be effective, too. Regular bouts of 10 to 15 minutes of aerobic “sparks,” such as dancing, an early morning walk or a midday office stair climb, combined with a few strengthening exercises and stretching routines can have measurable physical, mental and emotional impact.

Though you may not lose a lot of weight or become ready to compete in 10K races with these minimum activity levels, you can improve your overall health and start feeling more invigorated. Parking your car at the far end of the lot and walking to the mall, taking the stairs instead of the elevator, dancing through your housework—every little bit helps!

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

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($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

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What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

Explore Deborah's Book

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Taking Stock

Ancient Romans named the month of January for Janus, their god of gates, doors and beginnings. Always pictured with two faces—one looking toward the future, the other back at the past—Janus is a fitting symbol for the turning of a new year.

As you step through the doorway from one year to the next, it’s natural to do as Janus does: look ahead and back. This year, instead of dashing into making New Year’s resolutions, consider pausing to take stock of your life through respectful reflection and compassionate contemplation.    

Who are you?
What do you believe?
What do you really need?

Taking Stock

When you know who you are at your core, you stop functioning on auto-pilot and start living on purpose with mindfulness, focus and intention. Your choices become more conscious and clear. You make thoughtful, active choices instead of having kneejerk reactions or staying stuck in the mire of indecision.

Here are a few questions to help move you forward. You might want to have a journal or notebook handy to capture your thoughts. While many find that writing longhand helps them really connect with their breath and heart, if typing on a keyboard is what frees your soul, go for it.

What is aching to be expressed?

What needs healing?

What unique gifts, talents and skills
do you bring to the world?
How are you using or not using them?

What or whom do you need to forgive?
How about yourself?

What beliefs are holding you back
or getting in your way?

What would you like to let go of
once and for all?

What are your greatest joys?

Take a holistic approach by considering the vital information that other aspects of your self can provide. When you use only your head, your experience of yourself and the world is more limited.

  • What is your body telling you? When someone yells at you, does your stomach tie up in knots? Do your shoulders stiffen when you’ve been too focused on fulfilling others’ needs and ignoring your own? Notice the insights your body is conveying.
  • Check in with your heart. Your heart is the home of what is most alive in you. What does your heart have to say about your profession? About how you spend your days? Does it need more play time? According to your heart, what really matters?
  • Listen to your intuition, your “gut.” Your intuition speaks volumes, but often gets ignored. What is this form of your deepest wisdom saying right now?

Appreciate what’s already working. Acknowledge and give thanks for the gifts and the beauty and the miracles that are in your life right now. Write them down.

Tell the truth. Now is the time to start being honest about who you really are and what you desire. Encouraging the unlived parts of yourself to emerge can provide an exhilarating sense of hope, possibilities and empowerment for the New Year and beyond.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

Explore Deborah's Book

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