Money Talks

Money TalksHere’s a quick, three-part survey about one of the most powerful and pervasive stressors of our time:

a: What are the most frequent subjects of recurring relationship disagreements?
b: What’s the biggest fear men and women have about their future?
c: What secret do most people hold dearest? (Hint: It’s not sexual preferences.) 

The most common answers?

a: Communication, sex and MONEY.
b: Losing control of their physical or mental facilities or being on the street because they don’t have any MONEY.
c: The amount of MONEY we owe. 

According to a recent survey conducted by the American Psychological Association, concern about money is the prime source of stress for 73 percent of Americans. Everybody, it seems, has money issues, but, sadly, hardly anybody really talks about it. Money is our secret, both in private and in public. Sometimes we don’t even admit our worries to ourselves.

Well, Friends, with Thanksgiving just around the corner and more than 30 blogs on reducing stress published over the past four months, I’ve decided it’s time to “talk turkey” by bringing our money fears out into the open. My holiday gift for your New Year is to focus my remaining 2012 blogs on helping you declare your independence from worrying over this particular Über Stressor.

Like most secret fears, anxieties about money spread like the common cold until they’ve infected our attitudes and behaviors, robbing us of serenity and peace of mind. Compounding the felony, because we don’t admit or talk about them, we are blocked from getting release and relief.  

Ready to reclaim your personal power and zest for living? Begin by taking this Baby Step: start talking. As with any fear, once we name it, we immediately reduce its power to hold us prisoner while increasing our own power to take constructive action. 

Suze Orman, author of The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom, believes that the sooner we deal with our fears, the more money we’ll be able to create. She says, “When you heal your heart, you help your pocketbook.” 

Often it is the early messages we received about money that influence our current beliefs. That relentless, looping tape recorder in our minds picks up and continues to play old ideas that are sometimes so subtle we don’t even realize their presence. 

So, one of the first steps in dealing with current money issues is to explore early beliefs that still have a grip on our attitudes and choices. Make notes about these old messages. Try writing a “money biography”—the history of your relationship with money from childhood to present. List your fears about money, no matter how ridiculous or far-fetched they might sound. 

Our unspoken attitudes and ideas about money are stripping us of our sense of well-being and security. One of the best ways to find our way through a darkened room when things go bump in the night is to turn on all the lights. 

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

About djwlifecoach

As a retired board-certified coach, author and Reiki master teacher, I continue to share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. What's love got to do with minimizing stress and getting unstuck? Everything! My book, "Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life!" (Hay House/Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework. During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world's largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. My recovery from burnout, including a sustained 80-pound weight loss and freedom from 10 years of debilitating depression, led to finding my purpose sharing hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. Through healing and self-exploration, I discovered that loving yourself unconditionally is the key to transforming your personal life, your work and the world. With attention and intention, I learned to live in alignment with love through a wealth of energy-shifting tools and techniques that help me reduce stress, anxiety and overwhelm by releasing limiting beliefs, emotions and habits. My books, blog and radio episodes help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. Learn more and access FREE resources at For fun, I love singing, reading, sewing, knitting, golfing and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my husband, Wilson, and the coaching cats who manage my life—SiddhaLee and Maisy Jane.
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