Escaping the Prison of Perfectionism

r2g-p1-ai5-Vince-Lombardi-webWould you like to learn the secret to thriving rather than just surviving? Life is full of choices. Every one of those choices supports a pattern. Over time, those patterns become habits.

When you choose to fuel yourself with fear—by suppressing your desires, discounting your intuition, compromising your values, disregarding your health, setting the bar too high, and driving yourself incessantly—you are setting yourself up for chronic disappointment and disillusionment. Repeated often enough, undermining yourself becomes a hard habit to break—one that can lead to burnout physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

On the other hand, when you make choices and set intentions fueled by unconditional self-love, your life becomes one of generous, effortless, gracious flow, grounded in who you are being not what you are doing. By trusting your intuition, honoring your energy and repeating the simple three-step cycle of “baby step/gratitude/celebrate,” you bask in the glow of little daily victories that support your growth and move you forward in building a life you love. When you repeat that more constructive pattern day after day, you build healthy new habits that make feeling like a winner a way of life.

You don’t have to push yourself like an Olympic athlete, or restrict your diet and activities to the point of misery. You can give nothing of lasting value from an empty well. Regular rest, reflection and play are essential nutrients for the ongoing renewal and empowerment of your body, mind, heart and soul. Treat yourself with love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude in each and every moment—just as if you are your own beloved child. Then stay tuned to the Universal frequency via your energy and intuition for further instructions on where to go, what to do, when, how much and with whom. When you discern, focus, and follow through, the Universe works wonders through you.

Choose love as your fuel and turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities. Live as the winner you were born to be!

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About djwlifecoach

I am retired from 40+ years of helping individuals and teams build lives and organizations they love. One of the great joys of my retirement from professional practice is having greater bandwidth to donate my professional and creative talents to support and promote animal and social welfare charities. During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world’s largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. My recovery from burnout led to finding my purpose guiding others on their journeys. As a board-certified coach, author, consultant, radio host, Reiki Master and EFT/tapping practitioner, I share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. 111419 DJW Sid CH Pet Corner Photo ShootI help clients achieve rapid, extraordinary, sustainable results by connecting who they are with what they do, a connection often lost through stress and the sheer busy-ness of daily life. Courageous self-awareness and unconditional self-love lead to honest choices based on priorities that nurture you and those around you on a journey to wholeness. Decades in coaching, consulting, change management, organization development, human resources and mixed media artistic expression honed my business sense, professionalism, creativity, intuition, leadership and communication skills. The result? Practical tools that help you become more insightful, creative, committed, productive and fulfilled. Even the most dedicated and hard-working individuals can shift from frustration to a sense of futility when their values, passion, work, and lives become disconnected. One of the problems with not taking care of our health is that the effects of ignoring it are often slow to show up. We continue to juggle family responsibilities, work and finances until we lose ourselves, waking up one day 50 pounds heavier in body and soul—no good to ourselves or anyone else. I love working with people who are ready to take life-changing action to make their dreams a reality. At each moment, you have inside you all the wisdom you seek to choose your life and your way of showing up. Limiting thoughts, beliefs and feelings can block you from moving forward. An absence of love and concern for yourself can result in negative head talk that holds you back with discouraging messages about who you are and what you can do. By listening and caring deeply, I guide you in connecting with your own inner wisdom. We identify the way you’d like to live. We determine what’s blocking you and release you from the hold those blocks have over you—unleashing the positive energy that will fuel you forward. Together we develop a plan to move you closer to your heart’s desire. My books, blog, radio show and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. What’s love got to do with it? Everything! My book, Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life! (Hay House/ Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework. For fun, I love reading, sewing, knitting, yin yoga, afternoon tea, opera and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my spouse, Wilson Abney, and the cat who runs our life, Maisy Jane.
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