Escaping the Prison of Perfectionism

r2g-p1-ai5-Vince-Lombardi-webWould you like to learn the secret to thriving rather than just surviving? Life is full of choices. Every one of those choices supports a pattern. Over time, those patterns become habits.

When you choose to fuel yourself with fear—by suppressing your desires, discounting your intuition, compromising your values, disregarding your health, setting the bar too high, and driving yourself incessantly—you are setting yourself up for chronic disappointment and disillusionment. Repeated often enough, undermining yourself becomes a hard habit to break—one that can lead to burnout physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

On the other hand, when you make choices and set intentions fueled by unconditional self-love, your life becomes one of generous, effortless, gracious flow, grounded in who you are being not what you are doing. By trusting your intuition, honoring your energy and repeating the simple three-step cycle of “baby step/gratitude/celebrate,” you bask in the glow of little daily victories that support your growth and move you forward in building a life you love. When you repeat that more constructive pattern day after day, you build healthy new habits that make feeling like a winner a way of life.

You don’t have to push yourself like an Olympic athlete, or restrict your diet and activities to the point of misery. You can give nothing of lasting value from an empty well. Regular rest, reflection and play are essential nutrients for the ongoing renewal and empowerment of your body, mind, heart and soul. Treat yourself with love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude in each and every moment—just as if you are your own beloved child. Then stay tuned to the Universal frequency via your energy and intuition for further instructions on where to go, what to do, when, how much and with whom. When you discern, focus, and follow through, the Universe works wonders through you.

Choose love as your fuel and turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities. Live as the winner you were born to be!

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About djwlifecoach

As a retired board-certified coach, author and Reiki master teacher, I continue to share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. What's love got to do with minimizing stress and getting unstuck? Everything! My book, "Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life!" (Hay House/Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework. During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world's largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. My recovery from burnout, including a sustained 80-pound weight loss and freedom from 10 years of debilitating depression, led to finding my purpose sharing hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. Through healing and self-exploration, I discovered that loving yourself unconditionally is the key to transforming your personal life, your work and the world. With attention and intention, I learned to live in alignment with love through a wealth of energy-shifting tools and techniques that help me reduce stress, anxiety and overwhelm by releasing limiting beliefs, emotions and habits. My books, blog and radio episodes help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. Learn more and access FREE resources at For fun, I love singing, reading, sewing, knitting, golfing and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my husband, Wilson, and the coaching cats who manage my life—SiddhaLee and Maisy Jane.
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