Why Waste Your Life in Anger?

Given that each of us has a limited number of minutes to live in this particular lifetime on this particular planet, renowned poet, Mary Oliver, asks in her poem “The Summer Day,”

**“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”**

You can CHOOSE to live your life angry and at odds with the world around you OR you can CHOOSE to be optimistic and at peace—whatever your circumstances. Anger is a fear-based energy. Optimism is a love-based energy.

Love is constructive and moves you forward. Fear is destructive and holds you back.

Love is the author of truth and reality. Fear is the author of lies and illusion. Which sounds like more fun? You’d think we’d all, always, CHOOSE LOVE, right? And yet, I’ve found that any of us can drift off center when overwhelmed by stress and gripped by ancient self-destructive scripts. When we do and fear takes over in the form of anger, WHAM—peace and optimism fly out the window. At times such as these, how do you return your core energy to constructive love-fueled equanimity?

RECOGNIZE WHAT YOU’VE BEEN CHOOSING AND CHOOSE DIFFERENTLY. Instead of choosing to fuel yourself with fear in the form of anger, CHOOSE TO FUEL YOURSELF WITH LOVE IN THE FORM OF GRATITUDE.

Whenever we invest our moments in gratitude, we optimize the return on our most precious investment.

The moment you recognize that you’re beginning to feel angry, start neutralizing the judge by getting curious about the qualities of your current situation for which you can be genuinely grateful. Maybe it reveals an opportunity for personal improvement. Or points to a relationship or role that is no longer a constructive force in your life.

Why Waste Your Life in Anger?

When you remember that everything is an opportunity and get curious, you’ll always find something to appreciate. Expressing genuine gratitude in the face of anger is one of the fastest ways to shift your mental state to joy and equanimity. I’m not advocating denial, because that which is denied wreaks havoc. I’m encouraging you to recognize, embrace and harness your anger as quickly as possible rather than merely ranting and raving but gaining nothing of real value. Shifting your energy from anger to gratitude allows you to turn your seeming mine field into a goldmine by reaping the insights and benefits that your harnessed anger can yield.

Once anger leaves the building, you gain a direct line of sight to your greatest awareness and deepest wisdom allowing you to enjoy greater resilience, see even more opportunities, make your best decisions and demonstrate implementation persistence and creativity, whatever perceived obstacles you encounter along the way.

When you fuel all aspects of yourself with love, respect, curiosity, compassion, and gratitude, you begin living in flow.

Your life becomes a fluid Journey to Wholeness grounded in who you are being, not what you are doing. Every breath, thought, word, and act—your very presence—fosters a generous, effortless, gracious life of flow filled with faith, hope, prosperity, peace, and joy.

Faith: I am confident that love is the greatest power in the Universe.
Hope: Universal love is always unfolding the highest good for all, in all, through all.
Prosperity: My Universal Source is excellent, limitless, and reliable.
Peace: I relax into all that was, is, and will be.
Joy: Whatever my circumstances, I know who I am and Whose I am: a unique cocreative expression of the Divine.

How could THAT ever not be enough?

When you choose an attitude of gratitude, you easily relax into all that was, is and will be.

How will you improve the performance of your life’s portfolio TODAY by investing all of your precious moments in GRATITUDE?

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You’ve got nothing to lose,
except the limits fear, stress and pain
have been placing on your life.

Time to get off that hamster wheel
and step into your greatness!

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About djwlifecoach

I am retired from 40+ years of helping individuals and teams build lives and organizations they love. One of the great joys of my retirement from professional practice is having greater bandwidth to donate my professional and creative talents to support and promote animal and social welfare charities. During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world’s largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. My recovery from burnout led to finding my purpose guiding others on their journeys. As a board-certified coach, author, consultant, radio host, Reiki Master and EFT/tapping practitioner, I share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. 111419 DJW Sid CH Pet Corner Photo ShootI help clients achieve rapid, extraordinary, sustainable results by connecting who they are with what they do, a connection often lost through stress and the sheer busy-ness of daily life. Courageous self-awareness and unconditional self-love lead to honest choices based on priorities that nurture you and those around you on a journey to wholeness. Decades in coaching, consulting, change management, organization development, human resources and mixed media artistic expression honed my business sense, professionalism, creativity, intuition, leadership and communication skills. The result? Practical tools that help you become more insightful, creative, committed, productive and fulfilled. Even the most dedicated and hard-working individuals can shift from frustration to a sense of futility when their values, passion, work, and lives become disconnected. One of the problems with not taking care of our health is that the effects of ignoring it are often slow to show up. We continue to juggle family responsibilities, work and finances until we lose ourselves, waking up one day 50 pounds heavier in body and soul—no good to ourselves or anyone else. I love working with people who are ready to take life-changing action to make their dreams a reality. At each moment, you have inside you all the wisdom you seek to choose your life and your way of showing up. Limiting thoughts, beliefs and feelings can block you from moving forward. An absence of love and concern for yourself can result in negative head talk that holds you back with discouraging messages about who you are and what you can do. By listening and caring deeply, I guide you in connecting with your own inner wisdom. We identify the way you’d like to live. We determine what’s blocking you and release you from the hold those blocks have over you—unleashing the positive energy that will fuel you forward. Together we develop a plan to move you closer to your heart’s desire. My books, blog, radio show and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. What’s love got to do with it? Everything! My book, Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life! (Hay House/ Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework. For fun, I love reading, sewing, knitting, yin yoga, afternoon tea, opera and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my spouse, Wilson Abney, and the cat who runs our life, Maisy Jane.

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