Turning Unexplored Possibilities Into Fulfilling Realities

When we were in school, most of us encountered word problems in math class.

The first step in solving the problem was to clarify what it was really asking. Only then could we calculate the answer.

It turns out that solving problems in life is a lot like solving word problems in school. It goes a whole lot better when we start by clarifying what the problem is really about.

The sticky thing about solving problems is that many times we don’t take the time to step back, reflect, become curious, look at the circumstances objectively and mindfully choose our desired alternative (hint: many times it’s a different feeling, not necessarily a different situation). Instead, we just react from fear with simplistic, dualistic, judging mode. This is bad, I don’t like it and this is who’s to blame.

One of the sure-fire ways I recognize that I’ve stopped fueling myself with constructive core energy based in love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude is that I catch myself judging situations, beings, relationships or objects as “problems.” In such times, I remind myself that maintaining a belief in abundance and an attitude of gratitude anchors each moment of my life in a sense of generous, effortless, gracious flow—a life of freedom filled with faith, hope, prosperity, peace, and joy.

Here’s the formula for making the five elements of constructive core energy a way of life.

In every situation, love yourself enough to pay attention to every aspect of your life. Respect everything you are experiencing—what you are thinking, feeling, deciding, saying, and doing.
Determine whether the energy underneath is love or fear. If it’s love, you are probably on your authentic path. If it’s fear, demonstrate compassion for yourself.
Foster gratitude by reminding yourself that everything is an opportunity.
Then further neutralize the fear by bringing curiosity to bear. Explore every aspect of the situation, especially your internal landscape, and identify all of the opportunities available to you through this unique experience.
Commit to one small baby step that will move you closer to the life you dream of. Letting any shifts be as organic as possible is key to substantive, lasting transformation.
Appreciate any progress—no amount is too inconsequential to celebrate. Each step forward is an important opportunity to stop, consider what you’ve learned, examine your new tools, realize your new strengths, and embrace with gratitude the joy that will take you to the next step. Celebrating each success is key to fostering the constructive core energy that will keep moving you forward.
Noticing and demonstrating love, respect, curiosity, compassion, and gratitude for any resistance to change is as important to moving forward as celebrating your successes.

In summary, figure out what you want, understand whether it’s fueled by fear, transform any fear into love, set your intention, take a baby step, and celebrate each success with a grateful heart. As with any new skill, practice will help this way of being become a healthy new habit—your automatic response to every situation.

We save ourselves a lot of stress, time, frustration and conflict, when we step back and see a problem for what it is: an opportunity. With that one powerful shift in perspective, the “problem” is already half solved and we’re on our way to reclaiming our power to manifest deep peace, lasting joy and meaning-filled relationships. When you choose to see life through the lens of opportunity, you turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into your greatness!

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About djwlifecoach

I am retired from 40+ years of helping individuals and teams build lives and organizations they love. One of the great joys of my retirement from professional practice is having greater bandwidth to donate my professional and creative talents to support and promote animal and social welfare charities. During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world’s largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. My recovery from burnout led to finding my purpose guiding others on their journeys. As a board-certified coach, author, consultant, radio host, Reiki Master and EFT/tapping practitioner, I share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. 111419 DJW Sid CH Pet Corner Photo ShootI help clients achieve rapid, extraordinary, sustainable results by connecting who they are with what they do, a connection often lost through stress and the sheer busy-ness of daily life. Courageous self-awareness and unconditional self-love lead to honest choices based on priorities that nurture you and those around you on a journey to wholeness. Decades in coaching, consulting, change management, organization development, human resources and mixed media artistic expression honed my business sense, professionalism, creativity, intuition, leadership and communication skills. The result? Practical tools that help you become more insightful, creative, committed, productive and fulfilled. Even the most dedicated and hard-working individuals can shift from frustration to a sense of futility when their values, passion, work, and lives become disconnected. One of the problems with not taking care of our health is that the effects of ignoring it are often slow to show up. We continue to juggle family responsibilities, work and finances until we lose ourselves, waking up one day 50 pounds heavier in body and soul—no good to ourselves or anyone else. I love working with people who are ready to take life-changing action to make their dreams a reality. At each moment, you have inside you all the wisdom you seek to choose your life and your way of showing up. Limiting thoughts, beliefs and feelings can block you from moving forward. An absence of love and concern for yourself can result in negative head talk that holds you back with discouraging messages about who you are and what you can do. By listening and caring deeply, I guide you in connecting with your own inner wisdom. We identify the way you’d like to live. We determine what’s blocking you and release you from the hold those blocks have over you—unleashing the positive energy that will fuel you forward. Together we develop a plan to move you closer to your heart’s desire. My books, blog, radio show and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. What’s love got to do with it? Everything! My book, Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life! (Hay House/ Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework. For fun, I love reading, sewing, knitting, yin yoga, afternoon tea, opera and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my spouse, Wilson Abney, and the cat who runs our life, Maisy Jane.

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