When we were in school, most of us encountered word problems in math class.
The first step in solving the problem was to clarify what it was really asking. Only then could we calculate the answer.
It turns out that solving problems in life is a lot like solving word problems in school. It goes a whole lot better when we start by clarifying what the problem is really about.
The sticky thing about solving problems is that many times we don’t take the time to step back, reflect, become curious, look at the circumstances objectively and mindfully choose our desired alternative (hint: many times it’s a different feeling, not necessarily a different situation). Instead, we just react from fear with simplistic, dualistic, judging mode. This is bad, I don’t like it and this is who’s to blame.
One of the sure-fire ways I recognize that I’ve stopped fueling myself with constructive core energy based in love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude is that I catch myself judging situations, beings, relationships or objects as “problems.” In such times, I remind myself that maintaining a belief in abundance and an attitude of gratitude anchors each moment of my life in a sense of generous, effortless, gracious flow—a life of freedom filled with faith, hope, prosperity, peace, and joy.
Here’s the formula for making the five elements of constructive core energy a way of life.
- In every situation, love yourself enough to pay attention to every aspect of your life. Respect everything you are experiencing—what you are thinking, feeling, deciding, saying, and doing.
- Determine whether the energy underneath is love or fear. If it’s love, you are probably on your authentic path. If it’s fear, demonstrate compassion for yourself.
- Foster gratitude by reminding yourself that everything is an opportunity.
- Then further neutralize the fear by bringing curiosity to bear. Explore every aspect of the situation, especially your internal landscape, and identify all of the opportunities available to you through this unique experience.
- Commit to one small baby step that will move you closer to the life you dream of. Letting any shifts be as organic as possible is key to substantive, lasting transformation.
- Appreciate any progress—no amount is too inconsequential to celebrate. Each step forward is an important opportunity to stop, consider what you’ve learned, examine your new tools, realize your new strengths, and embrace with gratitude the joy that will take you to the next step. Celebrating each success is key to fostering the constructive core energy that will keep moving you forward.
- Noticing and demonstrating love, respect, curiosity, compassion, and gratitude for any resistance to change is as important to moving forward as celebrating your successes.
In summary, figure out what you want, understand whether it’s fueled by fear, transform any fear into love, set your intention, take a baby step, and celebrate each success with a grateful heart. As with any new skill, practice will help this way of being become a healthy new habit—your automatic response to every situation.
We save ourselves a lot of stress, time, frustration and conflict, when we step back and see a problem for what it is: an opportunity. With that one powerful shift in perspective, the “problem” is already half solved and we’re on our way to reclaiming our power to manifest deep peace, lasting joy and meaning-filled relationships. When you choose to see life through the lens of opportunity, you turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into your greatness!