Ten Actions That Say “I Love You”

The saying, “Words are cheap, actions speak,” is never more true than when applied to the words “I love you.” Whether spoken to a romantic partner, your children or other family members, if the actions aren’t there to back up the loving words, the words mean nothing.

On my journey to wholeness, I sought clarity on the true meaning of unconditional love and identified four core attributes: respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude.

This holiday season, instead of just buying your loved ones more stuff, consider including one or more gifts that DEMONSTRATE the depth of your love for them. To get you started, here are ten concrete, meaningful actions that say “I love you.” There are thousands more. See how creative you can be in coming up with your own ideas.

  1. Greet them with a big smile, a hug and a kiss.
  1. Really listen to what they are saying. Don’t just keep quiet to reload; give them your undivided and undistracted attention.
  1. Support each other through tough times.
  1. Do simple, random acts of kindness, such as massaging shoulders or feet, cooking a favorite meal, running a bath, taking out the trash (without being asked).
  1. Spend one-on-one time with your loved ones, with no particular agenda.
  1. Commit to truly accepting each other’s faults and appreciating each other’s gifts.
  1. Come home on time and sober.
  1. Be impeccable with your word. Do not use it to injure or deceive. Be kind and if you say you’ll do something, do it when and how you promised.
  1. Take responsibility for your part in any conflict, and then look at how you can do better next time. Step out of the blame game.
  1. Explore your deepest experiences, thoughts and feelings together. This precious gift deepens intimacy by fostering trust.
Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

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There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

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What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

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How Music Soothes Stress

Most people have experienced the relaxing effect of music—from the soft strains of a flute playing in the background during a massage, to tuning out the world with your headphones during a grueling commute on public transit.

With hectic schedules, busy families, financial pressures and life’s many complications, stress can permeate every aspect of daily living. Whether you’re experiencing more persistent stress thanks to the holidays or just looking to enjoy the many health benefits of increased relaxation, music can play an important role. It has the power to engage the body, mind and spirit and carry you into a more relaxed state.

How Music Soothes Stress

The Mind

Listening to music may evoke memories, images or scenes. This is how music soundtracks help “tell” the story of a movie. We can all intentionally create soundtracks for our lives. Music therapist Jennifer Buchanan guides us in doing just that in her book, Tune In: Use Music Intentionally to Curb Stress, Boost Morale and Restore Health.

Buchanan says that by choosing to listen to music that you associate with calming memories, images or scenes, you can distract yourself from the negative thoughts that are worrying you. Music can also help engage your creative, problem-solving mind so that you can come up with constructive solutions for the worrisome situation.

The Body

Purposefully chosen music can also evoke the pleasant physical sensations of actually being in those scenarios. Whether you’re lying down and listening to a slow-paced symphony, or letting loose on the dance floor to a loud, thumping beat, music can give you a physical release from stress.

The Spirit

Attending a concert, creating live music with a group of people or even singing along with the radio can help you to feel connected to a world outside yourself and even to a deeper spiritual presence. Indeed, music has a major role in most of the world’s religions.

Music Therapy

Although the use of music as a healing modality dates back to the writings of Aristotle, music therapy was first identified as a profession following World War I when it was used with veterans who had a variety of issues, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). In Tune In, Jennifer Buchanan shares the story of her first meeting with a music therapy client suffering from PTSD.

Before they met, her client had closed himself off from the world and spent most of his time in his room. When he first met Jennifer and listened as she sang familiar songs (just one of the many ways that music therapists use music to enhance the health and well-being of their clients), the experience brought a spark of life back into his eyes.

Soon, he was expressing that aliveness in other ways, by expanding his activities and more closely interacting with the people around him.

When it comes to relieving stress, Buchanan says that it’s not the speed of music that is the key—for some people, it is fast music that is relaxing—but finding your own personalized music prescription for stress. She suggests that you first identify which style, speed, instrument or voice seems to soothe you.

Choose a piece of music that has those qualities, and then spend 20 minutes immersing yourself in the relaxing power of music with this exercise.

  1. Find a comfortable place to sit or lie down near the speakers or wear a comfortable pair of earphones.
  2. Turn on the music, ensuring that the volume is high enough to capture your attention but not so high it will damage your eardrums.
  3. Take a few minutes to observe your breathing, shifting your mind from the external to the internal.
  4. Turn your focus entirely to the music and hold it there. Follow the melody, or pay attention to the pauses in the music. If you find yourself drifting away, gently bring yourself back to the sound.

Repeat often for a long-lasting effect.

Research suggests that your mood will improve and your stress will be greatly reduced by listening to music intentionally.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2015 Claire Communications

 

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There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

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What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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Top 10 Ways to Have the Best Holidays Ever

IT’S OFFICIAL:
THE HOLIDAY SEASON
IS UPON US ONCE AGAIN!

Dare we hope that this one will be truly magical? Not if we let ourselves get bogged down in overdoing, overwhelm and other all-too-familiar stress-inducing patterns.

Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life!

Here are 10 ways to nurture, encourage and delight yourself—and others—this holiday season by choosing to fuel yourself with constructive core energy grounded in love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude. You’re worth the effort.

Make conscious decisions.

Get clear about what you really want to do over the holidays before compromising with others. If you don’t have a clear plan and clear intentions, you might find yourself getting unwittingly swept along by others’ desires. It’s important to get clear up front on what matters to you and why, so you’ll fully understand the ramifications should you decide to compromise nonetheless.

Take good care of yourself.

The old standards help keep stress at bay: eat healthfully, exercise, drink lots of water and breathe deeply. Schedule time for relaxation and fun.

Start early.

To avoid a last-minute frenzy, start shopping and making presents now.

Ask for help.

Reject any glamorous notion of martyrdom. The burden of preparations should not fall upon one person. The more specific you are in your request for help, the more likely you are to get assistance that will actually prove helpful.

Give yourself a break.

Excellence can be grand but perfection—even perfect happiness—just isn’t possible. Perfection is fueled by fear; excellence is fueled by love. Let your loving best—and everyone else’s—be good enough. Make a budget for your investment of time and money—and stick to it. It really is the thought that counts.

Shorten your to-do list.

Keep the essentials and what has deep meaning for you. Ditch everything else.

Say no when you want to.

IT’S SOOOOOOOO LIBERATING! Try it and see. Too often we let a sense of obligation (FEAR FUELED) trump our deepest desires (LOVE FUELED). When faced with options, choose the one that will make you feel lighter and happier.

Limit obligatory activities.

If you can’t avoid certain events, limit the time you’re there.

Establish new traditions.

Consider doing something you’ve never done before over the holidays, such as travel to another country or take a cruise.

Get support if you’re feeling blue.

If a glorious holiday season feels completely out of reach, don’t beat yourself up for feeling that way. Seek support from a compassionate spiritual director, coach, therapist, friend or family member.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2011 Claire Communications

 

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There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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The Importance of Idle Time

You’re just about to leave for your dentist appointment, when you receive a phone call saying the dentist has been called out on emergency and will have to reschedule your appointment.

Congratulations!
You are the winner
of one unexpected free hour!
What will you do with your winnings?

Answer your email? Return to the project you were working on before you had to leave? Pay bills? Return phone calls?

Ever consider doing nothing?

The Importance of Idle Time

What is this life if, full of care,
we have no time to stand and stare.
W. H. Davies

If you’re like many, the thought of doing absolutely nothing for an entire hour seems as wasteful as throwing a week’s worth of fresh groceries out with the garbage. Indeed, free time with nothing to do can generate near panic among those who are overloaded and time-starved.

“We seem to have a complex about busyness in our culture,” says Thomas Moore, author of Care of the Soul. “Most of us do have time in our days that we could devote to simple relaxation, but we convince ourselves that we don’t.”

And yet, the harder we push, the more we need to replenish ourselves. As Stephan Rechtschaffen, author of Timeshifting, says, “Each of us needs some time that is strictly and entirely our own and we should experience it daily.”

The importance of this downtime cannot be overstated. It helps us see more clearly, hear more keenly, become more inspired and feel more alive.

On some level, we already know this. But claiming time to ourselves—time that is often labeled “unproductive”—and sticking to it can be difficult. We need to establish formal boundaries around our idle time to ensure that others—and we, ourselves—honor this time.

Here are some tips for respecting your idle time.

  • Make a date with yourself. Get to know someone who deserves your attention—you.
  • Stand firm. Learn how to say “no” to co-workers, children, a spouse or a friend. You may say “yes” in many other ways, but NOW is your time.
  • Be clear about your needs. It’s not, “I need more time to myself.” It’s more like, “I’d like to spend 20 minutes by myself in the morning before everyone gets up.”
  • Be on the lookout for stolen moments. Use the canceled dental appointment to sit on a park bench watching the clouds float by.
  • PRACTICE doing nothing. “Doing nothing” is an art—like all art, you need to practice it to reach your highest potential.

Optimal idle time varies by individual. For one person, gardening may be meditative downtime, whereas for another, it is one more item on the to-do list (to be done as quickly as possible or avoided at all costs). For some, the woods can be is a great place to stroll and commune with nature. For others, the woods is just another place for a power walk dictating emails.

Idle time should be like a beautiful flower: it just exists, seemingly without purpose. And yet, its sight and scent refresh and remind us of nature’s glory.

Start doing things that have no purpose other than joy. Take a half-hour a day to surprise and delight yourself. Keep it simple and consistent. If your idle time becomes a “program,” or becomes progress toward some productive goal, wipe the slate clean and begin again.

The power of idle time is breathtaking in its simplicity.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and, through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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Are You Taking Good Care of Yourself?

With our busy lives, paying attention to taking care of ourselves is more important than ever—yet it’s often the last thing on our minds. To accomplish everything on our to do lists, we work overtime to meet deadlines and use what should be down time to run errands. Long-term stress has a tremendous negative impact on our health—physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Your answers to the following quiz will help reveal opportunities to restore greater comfort and joy for yourself this holiday season by nurturing, encouraging and delighting yourself in healthier, more constructive ways. You’re worth the effort!

Always Be Good to Yourself

True or False?

  1. I find peace by relaxing into all that was, is and will be. I let go of the way things used to be. I accept the way things are.
  2. I foster optimism. I view challenges and obstacles as opportunities in disguise.
  3. I remember to stop and breathe. I pause throughout my day to recenter myself with stillness and mindful breathing.
  4. I practice good nutrition and take the time to enjoy my meals. I set aside work, driving and other activities while I eat.
  5. I do something physical every day even if it’s just a walk around the block or a 15-minute workout.
  6. I get enough uninterrupted sleep most nights. I pay attention to when I feel tired and make rest a priority.
  7. I neither deny symptoms of illness or injury nor panic about them. I take constructive action by consulting the appropriate health care professionals to support my wellbeing.
  8. I do not overcommit myself. I say no when it’s the best choice for me without guilt or shame.
  9. I can settle for “good enough.” I don’t demand perfection in everything that I do.
  10. I recognize the value of working in different gears. I know how to keep simple tasks easy so that I can build up my reserves for larger initiatives that will require greater energy.
  11. I recognize the importance of periodic breaks of various lengths for rest, reflection and play. I sprinkle breaks throughout each day and schedule longer vacations during each year.
  12. I appreciate my personal relationships and invest the time and energy to help them thrive and flourish.
  13. I acknowledge and respect my feelings. My emotions are valued messengers concerning where I’m out of alignment with my values and priorities.
  14. I choose healthy ways to relieve stress. I avoid overdoing coping mechanisms that provide temporary distractions at the price of even more difficult and dangerous long-term consequences.
  15. If I need help, I ask for it. When I’m upset or feeling discouraged, I seek support from a compassionate spiritual director, coach, therapist, friend or family member.

If you answered false to several of these, you may benefit from taking a closer look at the impact your choices are having on your wellbeing—physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Investments in taking better care of yourself always yield a lifetime of benefits.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2009 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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NOVEMBER 15-17, 2016 ONLY: FREE Kindle Version of Tips that Help Entrepreneurs Thrive!

According to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics, the longer a company has been in business, the more likely it is to stay in business. It’s those first few years that are the hardest.

The Bureau’s data reveals that, regardless of industry focus, about two-thirds of all new businesses remain solvent for the first two years, half make it to five years and one-third celebrate their tenth anniversary.

What factors separate those that thrive from those that don’t survive? One difference is that many successful business owners hire professional coaches to support their growth—personally and professionally.

Many have found that their inability to grow their businesses was actually born of personal growth stagnation. Because how you do anything often becomes how you do everything, when you get stuck personally, it is often followed by getting stuck professionally as well.

So what are some of the success strategies
coaches share with such entrepreneurs?

As a member of the Board of Advisors for
The International Association of
Professional Life Coaches (IAPLC)

I am honored to serve as one of
ten expert coach co-authors
who share their perspectives on the
keys to entrepreneurial success
in the association’s brand new book

Coaching for Entrepreneurs:
How Life Coaching Can Help
Entrepreneurs Improve Their Bottom Line

Each of my colleague co-authors and I have written chapters on how coaching helps entrepreneurs. The chapters include examples of specific coaching tools and techniques through which the authors have consistently helped their clients achieve breakthroughs and transformations leading to increased business success and personal fulfillment.

Coaching For Entrepreneurs by IAPLC Members

The topics comprise

  1. 10 Reasons Why Entrepreneurs Need Coaching by Jeannette Koczela
  2. Coaches Help Entrepreneurs Improve Their Bottom Line by Don L. Morgan, PhD
  3. Mastering the Inner You for Kick-ass Business Success by Tresa Leftenant CFP®
  4. Growing with your Business by Boni Oian
  5. Leveraging Your Most Valuable Asset: Your Personal Board of Directors by Deborah Jane Wells
  6. Moving Forward On Your Terms by Ida Crawford
  7. Starting Your Own Business on a Shoestring Budget: How a Coach Can Make a Difference by Davida Shensky
  8. The NLP Coaching For Addictions Program by Janice Walton
  9. The Power of Clarity—7 Steps to Transforming Your Business into a Profit Center by E.G. Sebastian
  10. Communicating Brilliantly: Unleash Your Entrepreneurial Potential by Katherine Hartvickson

Learn how coaching can enhance your sense of fulfillment by helping you meet challenges, overcome obstacles, leverage opportunities and grow your business more efficiently and effectively.

FREE KINDLE VERSION

Modeling one of the many techniques we teach, on November 15th, 16th and 17th ONLY we are offering the Kindle version of the book for FREE. This proven practice helps prime the sales pump and increase early buzz. STOP RIGHT NOW AND CREATE A TASK ALERT for November 15th, 16th and 17th to remind you to click the link below and get your KINDLE VERSION FOR FREE.

http://tiny.cc/iaplc2016bookamazon

Ready to release yourself from the self-imposed limits fear, stress and pain have been placing on your life?

Time to Get Off That Hamster Wheel!

This book can help you get unstuck, reclaim your power and recapture your zest for living—moving yourself forward into a life you love personally and professionally.

Time to get off that hamster wheel
and step into your greatness.

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10 Ways to Sidestep Holiday Stress

From Halloween through Super Bowl Sunday, the holidays provide a wealth of opportunities to practice self-compassion and equanimity OR make yourself and everyone you encounter KUH-RANG-KEE AND KUH-RAY-ZEE! The choice is yours.

Top 10 Ways to Sidestep Holiday Stress

If you’d prefer a more humane and sane holiday season this year—one that you’ll actually ENJOY—here are 10 ideas to help you live your intention. 

  1. Take good care of yourself. Eat healthfully, get plenty of rest and regular, reasonable exercise. Nurture, encourage and delight yourself in healthy ways.
  1. Make lists and set aside specific times to accomplish certain tasks. Prioritize and simplify. Consider scratching some items off your list FOR GOOD.
  1. Ask for help. Many hands make light work. And it can be more fun to do things together—from decorating the house to wrapping presents.
  1. Make a budget and stick to it. No matter what. Let this be the year that you don’t go into debt buying presents.
  1. Shop online and by catalog. Give gift certificates. Look for ways to make gift giving easier.
  1. Share day care arrangements with family, friends and neighbors when the kids are out of school.
  1. Remember to play. Have fun. Share special times with family and friends.
  1. Make houseguests as self-sufficient as possible. Set expectations that they will help out. Don’t give up your own bed unless you must.
  1. Consider alternatives to family gatherings if you find them tense and anxious. Plan well in advance and avoid last-minute surprises.
  1. Take a breather. Go for a walk. Breathe in the fresh air. Find places to be quiet and restful. Go there often.

BONUS TIP: Whatever happens, look for the opportunity—especially in the most frustrating experiences. Whatever your circumstances, express gratitude and get curious knowing that THE HIGHEST GOOD IS ALWAYS UNFOLDING for all, in all, through all. Sometimes the paths we choose make it take longer for this truth to reveal itself, but it is always true nonetheless.

You are loved and loving, blessing and a blessing. Namaste, amen, blessed be.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2010 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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