Often, at the close of the year, we take stock and set goals for the future. We think about the Life we dream of, identifying destructive habits we’d like to leave behind and new, more constructive, ones we’d like to embody.
We all wish to live a life we love. If that’s the case, why does it seem that so few of us actually do?
Creating the life we desire should be easy, but for many reasons it isn’t. Sometimes we’re too busy working, paying bills or picking up kids to give it much thought. Sometimes we don’t know how to get clarity so we put it off until “later.” Or, perhaps, we have ignored what we really want and, instead, created a life that others wanted for us or themselves—ouch.
How to Create the Life You Dream Of
If you aren’t living the life you want, how do you get back on track? How do you get clear on what you want? And how do you stay committed to it?
Here are some steps that can help you get started:
Before getting what we want we must first know what that is. This may seem obvious but it trips up even the most intelligent people right out of the gate. Take out a blank sheet of paper and write “My Dream Life” at the top. List everything you want to have, do, be and share. From this list generate goals to help get you back on course.
2: Avoid the “Shiny New Object Syndrome”
It’s easy to lose momentum by getting distracted by every new, exciting possibility. Having clarity makes it easier to distinguish those opportunities that help move us forward from the ones that throw us off track.
The next time a new opportunity arises ask yourself, “How will this help me achieve my ultimate goal of “x”? If it doesn’t, you may want to place that opportunity in the “maybe someday” parking lot and move on.
3: Redefine Failure
People who focus on the destination as opposed to the journey also tend to be more critical when things don’t go as they planned. When you fully engage in the process while remaining detached from a specific outcome, it’s easier to appreciate the end result, whether it’s exactly what you hoped for or something you never considered.
The next time you do experience something you label a “failure,” however, try reframing it. Consider that you have just learned how not to accomplish what you intended, and then celebrate the lesson.
4: Give in to Your Primal Instincts
Craving new challenges is hard-wired into our DNA. If it weren’t, we never would have left the cave, invented the wheel or launched into outer space. Ignoring this primal code over the long term can lead to disappointment. So how do you happily succumb to this urge? With more clarity and structure.
Create a list of things you haven’t done yet, but want to do. Be specific and remember the three, guaranteed “no fail” rules when it comes to setting goals you actually intend to achieve:
A. Write it down.
B. WRITE IT DOWN.
C. WRITE IT DOWN!
Putting your list in writing transforms it from a desire into a personal contract with yourself. There is great power in setting a written intention.
5: Go Guilt-Free
Taking time to care for ourselves, guilt-free, is difficult for many people. Sometimes it feels as though things will fall off the rails if we “let go.” But when we do ease up, something amazing happens: the earth still spins and people find a way to manage without us. Taking time off leaves us feeling refreshed and makes us better workers, parents, spouses and citizens. Plus, going guilt-free can be contagious.
As with anything worthwhile, there is no quick fix when it comes to designing and building the life you desire. These steps can guide you along the path to loving the life you’re living while you’re moving closer to living a life you love!
I’d like to thank you for your loyal readership this year. Sharing with you and all of my clients has allowed me to stretch myself and spread my wings in ways I wouldn’t have dreamed possible. As I head into the New Year, I have my first book in production with Balboa Press (a division of Hay House), I’m in discussions with Royal Caribbean concerning my first “Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life!” cruise, I’m launching a weekly talk radio program with VoiceAmerica and offering my first signature webinar format group coaching programs based on the principles shared in my book. Collaborating with you and all of my clients has been the greatest gift and privilege of my entire Life. I am eternally grateful for the faith and trust you place in me as your Partner and Guide.
You are Loved and Loving, Blessed and a Blessing. Remember, the Art of Living is Enjoying the Journey. Namaste and a Very Happy New Year.