Transform Your Gremlins From Saboteurs to Allies

Tranform Your Gremlins From Saboteurs to Allies2012 was an amazing year for me. High productivity of the effortless-centered-in-love kind, not the forced-march variety. A non-stop shower of insights and opportunities, opening doors right and left, and I keep stepping across the portals. I am honored by the calling the Universe has entrusted to me and grateful for Its never-ending flow of support.

One of the results you may have noticed last quarter on my blog site and on my coaching website, was a change to the title and overall re-branding of my practice. The shift reflects the ongoing evolution of my work, not a dramatic change. It is still grounded in my experience and the experience of my clients: when you fall in love with yourself, everything else in your life falls into place, personally and professionally.

The new brand emerged in conjunction with synthesizing my coaching paradigms into a consistent holistic model on which to base the many new coaching offerings I have in the works for this year: my book, weekly radio show, cruise, webinars, seminars and workshops. I call this model The Discovery Framework™ .

The foundation of the Framework is this: when you fuel all aspects of yourself and your life with Core Energy of Love, Respect, Curiosity, Compassion and Gratitude, you begin living in Flow. Your life becomes a fluid Journey to Wholeness grounded in Who you are Being NOT What you are Doing. Every breath, thought, word and act—your very presence—fosters a generous, graceful life of Flow permeated by Faith, Hope, Prosperity, Peace and Joy. Work, rest and play all feel the same. Organic. Effortless. Force is not needed to accomplish anything, in fact, its use would be detrimental. Because force disrespects your deepest wisdom and greatest gift: your Intuition.

During individual and group forums, I found myself repeating four words over and over: love, energy, choice and change. Everything is energy. Energy attracts like energy. Love is the most powerful constructive energy in the Universe. Every choice is a choice between Fear and Love. When you fall in love with yourself, everything else falls into place, personally and professionally. Choosing love as your core energy automatically enhances every aspect of your life: your perceptions, opportunities, relationships and priorities. When love transforms your relationship with yourself, it can’t help but transform your personal life, your work and the World.

As I paid attention, the words that I had been using in one form or another from the early days of my practice, Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life, spontaneously emerged as the overarching language for conveying the nature and impact of my approach to the individuals and organizations who would value what I offer.

These developments required lots of deep breathing and self-awareness. I’ve learned to demonstrate genuine respect for my Personal Board of Directors (aka, The Sage, The Guardian and The Muse) when fear overtakes them and they shift into Gremlin mode. Their clever and dire warnings include such classics as, “Honey, it’s hard enough to keep you safe 24/7 as it is. How are we going to manage to protect you if your presence in the Universe gets any bigger? You do this and you might as well paint a big old bull’s eye on your back for all the naysayers to take aim at.”

When my clients report that their fears have reached up and grabbed them by the ankles yet again, I congratulate them. “That’s actually great news. It means you’re on the threshold of a big growth spurt and your own Sage, Guardian and Muse have ‘gone Gremlin’ because they are freaked that they won’t be able to keep you safe when you get that big.” The answer? Here are the insights I share on my coaching website and in my upcoming book:

  • Seek to understand what old concerns have been brought out of hiding,
  • Help them differentiate the remnants of past pain from today’s reality,
  • Remind them that “small” does not necessarily equal “safe” for an adult,
  • That following your authentic path with love and without fear is what “safe” looks like now,
  • Harness their loyalty and
  • Leverage their core gifts of discernment, discipline and imagination to move you forward into the Life you Love.

So how did that particular approach play out for me this year? A while back, I did a couple of unscripted radio interviews with a friend who is a professional radio personality. I loved the process and result so much that I set my intention to manifest a regular radio presence through which I could share my message of hope more broadly and facilitate the ability of others to do likewise.

Just a few hours later, I received a call from a Senior Executive Producer with, a leader in Internet broadcasting, inviting me to host a weekly 60-minute talk radio program. During the final stages of completing my proposal, I reinforced my intention to manifest three things: peace, clarity and energy. The result? Out of all the proposals submitted, I was one of three hosts invited to launch a new show in January.

On January 9, 2013, my new 60-minute weekly talk radio show, Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life, will begin airing globally on Wednesdays at 11am MT via’s brand new “EmPOWERment” channel. Each show will also re-broadcast on the channel 12 hours later and be available indefinitely 24/7 through the channel archive. In combination with the 2013 release of my first book, webinar programs, creativity workshops and potential coaching cruise with Royal Caribbean, the radio show will become an integral component of my signature individual and group coaching strategy.

I am often asked whether my Board’s Gremlin energies get stirred up by big opportunities. Yes, when they choose to be gripped by Fear, because that’s what Fear does to us. What do I do when that happens? I do what I encourage my clients to do. The only way I’d know it works so well is that I have the opportunity to practice it myself with regularity (LOL):

  • Pay attention and breathe,
  • Engage with Love, Respect, Curiosity, Compassion and Gratitude,
  • Reassure and redirect and
  • Repeat as necessary.

I look forward to teaching, encouraging and entertaining you all via my new broadcast platform starting January 9th.

Meanwhile, spread your wings, close your eyes and always trust your cape!

© Copyright 2012 DJW Life Coach LLC. All rights reserved.

About djwlifecoach

I am retired from 40+ years of helping individuals and teams build lives and organizations they love. One of the great joys of my retirement from professional practice is having greater bandwidth to donate my professional and creative talents to support and promote animal and social welfare charities. During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world’s largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. My recovery from burnout led to finding my purpose guiding others on their journeys. As a board-certified coach, author, consultant, radio host, Reiki Master and EFT/tapping practitioner, I share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. 111419 DJW Sid CH Pet Corner Photo ShootI help clients achieve rapid, extraordinary, sustainable results by connecting who they are with what they do, a connection often lost through stress and the sheer busy-ness of daily life. Courageous self-awareness and unconditional self-love lead to honest choices based on priorities that nurture you and those around you on a journey to wholeness. Decades in coaching, consulting, change management, organization development, human resources and mixed media artistic expression honed my business sense, professionalism, creativity, intuition, leadership and communication skills. The result? Practical tools that help you become more insightful, creative, committed, productive and fulfilled. Even the most dedicated and hard-working individuals can shift from frustration to a sense of futility when their values, passion, work, and lives become disconnected. One of the problems with not taking care of our health is that the effects of ignoring it are often slow to show up. We continue to juggle family responsibilities, work and finances until we lose ourselves, waking up one day 50 pounds heavier in body and soul—no good to ourselves or anyone else. I love working with people who are ready to take life-changing action to make their dreams a reality. At each moment, you have inside you all the wisdom you seek to choose your life and your way of showing up. Limiting thoughts, beliefs and feelings can block you from moving forward. An absence of love and concern for yourself can result in negative head talk that holds you back with discouraging messages about who you are and what you can do. By listening and caring deeply, I guide you in connecting with your own inner wisdom. We identify the way you’d like to live. We determine what’s blocking you and release you from the hold those blocks have over you—unleashing the positive energy that will fuel you forward. Together we develop a plan to move you closer to your heart’s desire. My books, blog, radio show and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. What’s love got to do with it? Everything! My book, Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life! (Hay House/ Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework. For fun, I love reading, sewing, knitting, yin yoga, afternoon tea, opera and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my spouse, Wilson Abney, and the cat who runs our life, Maisy Jane.
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