When things don’t go as you expect—the economy takes a dip, it rains on your wedding day or you run out of time to apply for a grant—you can invest your energy in making excuses, blaming others or beating up on yourself. Or you can choose the path of genuine self-responsibility coupled with non-judgmental curiosity and tap into the opportunity mother-load.
Blaming others and beating up
on yourself are NOT consistent
with really taking responsibility.
They are ways to escape taking meaningful action by avoiding real responsibility. The problem with this approach is that, when you never own your disappointments, you can never truly own your successes. Understanding your disappointments is important—it’s how you grow.
The secret to harvesting the greatest rewards from the endeavors that fall short of your expectations? Skip the disempowering self-loathing and embrace insatiable curiosity instead.
Be your own best Sherlock Holmes:
look for patterns everywhere.
When a project doesn’t go as hoped, think about other ones that fizzled in a similar fashion. What do all of them have in common? A fundamental assumption that directs much of your life? What might happen if you traded in that outgrown assumption for one with more potential?
Be equally curious about the similarities of your greatest successes: what do they have in common? What might ensue if you extended those commonalities to every endeavor?
Begin by identifying a time when you were at the “top of your game.” Perhaps you won a buckle at the county rodeo, or topped the charts in the fifth grade spelling bee. Maybe you ran a 5K race in your personal best time or helped a senior citizen apply for assistance. What were the keys to your success? What skills and talents did you use? What allies did you enlist? How might you expand your wins if you applied similar principles, talents and allies in other areas of your life?
Our thoughts, words and deeds
are the building blocks of our results.
Some look at a seeming barrier and think, “That’s too high for me.” Others see it as a temporary impediment and start looking for a leg up or a way around it. Or they up their training regime to condition themselves to jump higher. Choose your energy, change your life. It’s up to you.
How will you get unstuck and begin jumping higher today?
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You’ve got nothing to lose,
except the limits fear, stress and pain
have been placing on your life.
Time to get off that hamster wheel
and step into your greatness!
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I am retired from 40+ years of helping individuals and teams build lives and organizations they love. One of the great joys of my retirement from professional practice is having greater bandwidth to donate my professional and creative talents to support and promote animal and social welfare charities.
During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world’s largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll.
My recovery from burnout led to finding my purpose guiding others on their journeys. As a board-certified coach, author, consultant, radio host, Reiki Master and EFT/tapping practitioner, I share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world.
111419 DJW Sid CH Pet Corner Photo ShootI help clients achieve rapid, extraordinary, sustainable results by connecting who they are with what they do, a connection often lost through stress and the sheer busy-ness of daily life. Courageous self-awareness and unconditional self-love lead to honest choices based on priorities that nurture you and those around you on a journey to wholeness.
Decades in coaching, consulting, change management, organization development, human resources and mixed media artistic expression honed my business sense, professionalism, creativity, intuition, leadership and communication skills. The result? Practical tools that help you become more insightful, creative, committed, productive and fulfilled.
Even the most dedicated and hard-working individuals can shift from frustration to a sense of futility when their values, passion, work, and lives become disconnected. One of the problems with not taking care of our health is that the effects of ignoring it are often slow to show up. We continue to juggle family responsibilities, work and finances until we lose ourselves, waking up one day 50 pounds heavier in body and soul—no good to ourselves or anyone else.
I love working with people who are ready to take life-changing action to make their dreams a reality. At each moment, you have inside you all the wisdom you seek to choose your life and your way of showing up. Limiting thoughts, beliefs and feelings can block you from moving forward. An absence of love and concern for yourself can result in negative head talk that holds you back with discouraging messages about who you are and what you can do.
By listening and caring deeply, I guide you in connecting with your own inner wisdom. We identify the way you’d like to live. We determine what’s blocking you and release you from the hold those blocks have over you—unleashing the positive energy that will fuel you forward. Together we develop a plan to move you closer to your heart’s desire.
My books, blog, radio show and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. What’s love got to do with it? Everything! My book, Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life! (Hay House/ Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework.
For fun, I love reading, sewing, knitting, yin yoga, afternoon tea, opera and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my spouse, Wilson Abney, and the cat who runs our life, Maisy Jane.