Mastering Your Life

In last week’s introductory post on Energy Leadership™, we began by considering the central constructs of Bruce D. Schneider’s book Energy Leadership: Transforming Your Workplace and Your Life from the Core. Your thoughts resonate at different energetic frequencies and form the lens through which you view your life, thereby creating your reality in each moment. Your capacity to choose your thoughts and energy mindfully—whatever your circumstances or companions—directly impacts your satisfaction in all areas of your life by shaping how you respond to the myriad opportunities and obstacles you perceive every day.

Today we’ll continue to delve more deeply by exploring the principle of self-mastery. With his famous e=mc2 formula, Albert Einstein proved that everything is energy. Quantum physics demonstrates that energy attracts like energy. The principle of self-mastery is grounded in those same scientific precepts.


A master’s chosen mindset resonates at an energetic frequency that automatically attracts the right people, places, events and opportunities to support his or her aspirations. That same mindset allows a master to embrace those opportunities with gusto—unencumbered by fear or hesitation.

The energetic frequency
of the master’s mindset
naturally attracts whatever is needed
to position the master for success.

While each of us can learn to do many things well, there is only one thing you can truly master—being who you are. You are not here to be an imitation of someone else. In the inimitable words of Oscar Wilde, “Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.”

Each of us has a unique makeup. That makeup, at its core, is perfect. Our most precious gift to the world is revealed when we embrace and express our authenticity. When you share your true gift with the world, you have achieved self-mastery.

There are four aspects to self-mastery:

  • realizing that each of us has a unique gift to offer the world that is sourced in the authentic self,
  • discovering and embracing your authentic self,
  • identifying and developing your gift and,
  • sharing who you are with the world in the way that only you can.

It’s not what you do that matters, nor how you do it. Mastery is about knowing who you are at your core and expressing that in all you say and do. Instead of trying to better yourself into a worthy state, relax and look within to recognize the worthiness and wonder that are your birthright.

As a master, you live at the cause,
not the effect, of your life.

You feel in control without having to control anyone or anything. Your thoughts and beliefs resonate at a constructive energetic frequency that attracts just what you need when you need it with little or no effort. Self-mastery is sourced in constructive core energy characterized by unconditional love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude that yields a life of generous, effortless gracious flow filled with faith, hope, prosperity, peace and joy.

Self-mastery is a life of freedom
centered in being, not doing. 

Future Energy Leadership posts will share insights into the most common blocks to discovering and sharing your true self. One by one, we’ll identify those seeming obstacles, limitations and challenges and reveal them for what they are—distractions that can be rendered powerless through awareness and self-mastery. By learning to recognize and harness the unlimited potential that has always lain dormant deep inside you, you will be able to transform and shape your world into all that you desire moment by moment.

To explore the life-changing power of self-mastery for yourself, sign up below for a 60-minute complimentary coaching session.

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What clients say about
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“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

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What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

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About djwlifecoach

I am retired from 40+ years of helping individuals and teams build lives and organizations they love. One of the great joys of my retirement from professional practice is having greater bandwidth to donate my professional and creative talents to support and promote animal and social welfare charities. During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world’s largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. My recovery from burnout led to finding my purpose guiding others on their journeys. As a board-certified coach, author, consultant, radio host, Reiki Master and EFT/tapping practitioner, I share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. 111419 DJW Sid CH Pet Corner Photo ShootI help clients achieve rapid, extraordinary, sustainable results by connecting who they are with what they do, a connection often lost through stress and the sheer busy-ness of daily life. Courageous self-awareness and unconditional self-love lead to honest choices based on priorities that nurture you and those around you on a journey to wholeness. Decades in coaching, consulting, change management, organization development, human resources and mixed media artistic expression honed my business sense, professionalism, creativity, intuition, leadership and communication skills. The result? Practical tools that help you become more insightful, creative, committed, productive and fulfilled. Even the most dedicated and hard-working individuals can shift from frustration to a sense of futility when their values, passion, work, and lives become disconnected. One of the problems with not taking care of our health is that the effects of ignoring it are often slow to show up. We continue to juggle family responsibilities, work and finances until we lose ourselves, waking up one day 50 pounds heavier in body and soul—no good to ourselves or anyone else. I love working with people who are ready to take life-changing action to make their dreams a reality. At each moment, you have inside you all the wisdom you seek to choose your life and your way of showing up. Limiting thoughts, beliefs and feelings can block you from moving forward. An absence of love and concern for yourself can result in negative head talk that holds you back with discouraging messages about who you are and what you can do. By listening and caring deeply, I guide you in connecting with your own inner wisdom. We identify the way you’d like to live. We determine what’s blocking you and release you from the hold those blocks have over you—unleashing the positive energy that will fuel you forward. Together we develop a plan to move you closer to your heart’s desire. My books, blog, radio show and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. What’s love got to do with it? Everything! My book, Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life! (Hay House/ Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework. For fun, I love reading, sewing, knitting, yin yoga, afternoon tea, opera and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my spouse, Wilson Abney, and the cat who runs our life, Maisy Jane.
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