The saying, “Words are cheap, actions speak,” is never more true than when applied to the words “I love you.” Whether spoken to a romantic partner, your children or other family members, if the actions aren’t there to back up the loving words, the words mean nothing.
On my journey to wholeness, I sought clarity on the true meaning of unconditional love and identified four core attributes: respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude.
This holiday season, instead of just buying your loved ones more stuff, consider including one or more gifts that DEMONSTRATE the depth of your love for them. To get you started, here are ten concrete, meaningful actions that say “I love you.” There are thousands more. See how creative you can be in coming up with your own ideas.
- Greet them with a big smile, a hug and a kiss.
- Really listen to what they are saying. Don’t just keep quiet to reload; give them your undivided and undistracted attention.
- Support each other through tough times.
- Do simple, random acts of kindness, such as massaging shoulders or feet, cooking a favorite meal, running a bath, taking out the trash (without being asked).
- Spend one-on-one time with your loved ones, with no particular agenda.
- Commit to truly accepting each other’s faults and appreciating each other’s gifts.
- Come home on time and sober.
- Be impeccable with your word. Do not use it to injure or deceive. Be kind and if you say you’ll do something, do it when and how you promised.
- Take responsibility for your part in any conflict, and then look at how you can do better next time. Step out of the blame game.
- Explore your deepest experiences, thoughts and feelings together. This precious gift deepens intimacy by fostering trust.
Author’s content adapted under license, © 2008 Claire Communications
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