Is Workplace Infighting Bringing You Down?

Is your workplace about as peaceful as the Middle East?  Do you find you have to duck down in your cubicle to avoid the flying missiles and shrapnel of rumors and gossip? Infighting can cause a lot of work-related stress.

When it comes to negativity and office politics, you can’t single-handedly eliminate them, but you can limit your involvement.  Here are two suggestions:

 Avoid gossip.  There are two ways people participate in gossip.  One is by talking and the other is by listening.  Even if you never spread rumors, if your face lights up and you eagerly listen to every story, you are participating in gossip.  Once people realize that you don’t participate–by what you say or what you listen to–they will stop coming to you with the gossip.

Be neutral.  Do people try to get you on one side or the other in office politics?  Your wisest move is to be neutral.   You might even say, “Thanks for sharing your opinion with me, but I’m going to choose to be Switzerland on this one.”  Once people realize that you are  neutral, they will probably stop pestering you to take a position.

Work can be stressful enough without participating in the drama that is sometimes part of the culture.  A wise person once said, “We teach people how to treat us.”  Your consistent abstention from gossip, negativity and office politics teaches people where you stand and offers everyone a more constructive alternative than infighting.

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About djwlifecoach

As a retired board-certified coach, author and Reiki master teacher, I continue to share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. What's love got to do with minimizing stress and getting unstuck? Everything! My book, "Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life!" (Hay House/Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework. During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world's largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. My recovery from burnout, including a sustained 80-pound weight loss and freedom from 10 years of debilitating depression, led to finding my purpose sharing hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. Through healing and self-exploration, I discovered that loving yourself unconditionally is the key to transforming your personal life, your work and the world. With attention and intention, I learned to live in alignment with love through a wealth of energy-shifting tools and techniques that help me reduce stress, anxiety and overwhelm by releasing limiting beliefs, emotions and habits. My books, blog and radio episodes help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. Learn more and access FREE resources at For fun, I love singing, reading, sewing, knitting, golfing and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my husband, Wilson, and the coaching cats who manage my life—SiddhaLee and Maisy Jane.
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