THE HOLIDAY SEASON
IS UPON US ONCE AGAIN!
Dare we hope that this one will be truly magical? Not if we let ourselves get bogged down in overdoing, overwhelm and other all-too-familiar stress-inducing patterns.
Here are 10 ways to nurture, encourage and delight yourself—and others—this holiday season by choosing to fuel yourself with constructive core energy grounded in love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude. You’re worth the effort.
Make conscious decisions.
Get clear about what you really want to do over the holidays before compromising with others. If you don’t have a clear plan and clear intentions, you might find yourself getting unwittingly swept along by others’ desires. It’s important to get clear up front on what matters to you and why, so you’ll fully understand the ramifications should you decide to compromise nonetheless.
Take good care of yourself.
The old standards help keep stress at bay: eat healthfully, exercise, drink lots of water and breathe deeply. Schedule time for relaxation and fun.
To avoid a last-minute frenzy, start shopping and making presents now.
Ask for help.
Reject any glamorous notion of martyrdom. The burden of preparations should not fall upon one person. The more specific you are in your request for help, the more likely you are to get assistance that will actually prove helpful.
Give yourself a break.
Excellence can be grand but perfection—even perfect happiness—just isn’t possible. Perfection is fueled by fear; excellence is fueled by love. Let your loving best—and everyone else’s—be good enough. Make a budget for your investment of time and money—and stick to it. It really is the thought that counts.
Shorten your to-do list.
Keep the essentials and what has deep meaning for you. Ditch everything else.
Say no when you want to.
IT’S SOOOOOOOO LIBERATING! Try it and see. Too often we let a sense of obligation (FEAR FUELED) trump our deepest desires (LOVE FUELED). When faced with options, choose the one that will make you feel lighter and happier.
Limit obligatory activities.
If you can’t avoid certain events, limit the time you’re there.
Establish new traditions.
Consider doing something you’ve never done before over the holidays, such as travel to another country or take a cruise.
Get support if you’re feeling blue.
If a glorious holiday season feels completely out of reach, don’t beat yourself up for feeling that way. Seek support from a compassionate spiritual director, coach, therapist, friend or family member.
Author’s content adapted under license, © 2011 Claire Communications
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