Authenticity: Limiting the Impact of Stress on Your Relationships

Have you ever been guilty of taking your stress out on a friend or co-worker?  Has a loved one been able to sense your stress at the end of the day before you even get through the door?

It’s quite common for stress from one area of your life to seep into other areas.  Next time stress in one area of your life threatens to put other relationships at risk, try a “pre-emptive strike.”  Before your frustration starts to bubble over, have an honest talk with the people closest to you.  Let them know that you are facing a stressful period.  Reassure them that it is not about them, but about another issue you’re facing.  The conversation may go something like this:

“I’m anticipating a lot of stress over the next two weeks at work.  My boss has asked me to complete a project on a short deadline, and I’m working with a colleague that is difficult for me to get along with.  I may be grumpier than normal, but I want you to know it’s not about you.  While I’ll try not to bring my stress home and take it out on you, you may see the stress on my face and hear it in my voice.  I really appreciate your extra patience and understanding during this time.”

These words can help any relationship navigate more smoothly through stressful times.  Acknowledging what’s happening and clarifying the cause, in advance, will yield a number of advantages.  You’ll be more conscious of your own stress and more able to manage unintentionally inflicting it on others.  You will experience your friends and family as allies rather than turning them into additional adversaries by mistreating them.  In stressful times we need all the allies we can get.  Supportive partners always lighten the load.

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About djwlifecoach

As a coach, author, speaker, singer, artist, consultant, radio host, Reiki Master and EFT/tapping practitioner, I share hope, possibilities and empowerment with the world. What's love got to do with minimizing stress and getting unstuck? Everything! My book, "Choose Your Energy: Change Your Life!" (Hay House/Balboa Press 2013) shares my story and the stories of 10 of my clients along with my signature Discovery Framework. During my 30 years as an organization transformation consultant, I served as a senior partner in four of the world's largest, most prestigious global professional services firms. In 2005, I took a five-year sabbatical to find healing and peace because non-stop work had taken its toll. My recovery from burnout, including a sustained 80-pound weight loss and freedom from 10 years of debilitating depression, led to finding my purpose guiding others on their journeys. Through healing and self-exploration, I discovered that loving yourself unconditionally is the key to transforming your personal life, your work and the world. With attention and intention, I learned to live in alignment with love through a wealth of energy-shifting tools and techniques that help me reduce stress, anxiety and overwhelm by releasing limiting beliefs, emotions and habits. My books, blog, radio show and signature coaching programs help individuals and organizations harness the transformative energy of love to turn unexplored possibilities into fulfilling realities and step into their greatness. To learn more about my work in the world, visit djwlifecoach.com. Subscribe to my blog at tiny.cc/djwblog. Listen to my radio show at tiny.cc/djwradio. View my author video and book trailer at tiny.cc/djwauthorvideo and tiny.cc/djwbooktrailer. Access 40+ tapping resources at tiny.cc/djwtaps. Send email to deborah@djwlifecoach.com. For fun, I love singing, reading, sewing, knitting and movies. I live in Williamsburg, Virginia with my husband, Wilson, and the three coaching cats who manage my life—SiddhaLee, Mortimer and Maisy Jane.
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